I found out some pretty interesting things today through a friend of mine here.
She was going to Borders and since I still don't have my car back, offered me a ride so we could buy our bosses gifts. We were talking about some of the more colorful characters in the office and his name inevitably came up. I told her about one of our flirty talks and she said, "Oh yeah, he's fun. But I'd watch out for that one."
As we walked in we continued talking about him, and she said how it's rumored now that he's dating the redhead in the store downstairs. I felt like someone had punched me in the stomach. "I thought she was married!" I said, a little too quickly. She said that redhead is going through a divorce right now and she's heard this from a couple of people, and that he's down there now for an hour at a time, etc, but that it could just be that, rumours. In any case, she saw the crestfallen look on my face and asked if I was ok. (She was one I'd never told about my crush.) I told her I had asked him to lunch a few weeks ago, then told her of my crush.
She got a concerned look on her face as she told me he's a great guy, fun, and all that, but for boyfriend material, no way. She said he's not very reliable and he puts his feelers out in too many places. I told her of how I couldn't get rid of him when I first started here and she said that he most likely does find me attractive and does (did) have a crush on me (I told her some of the stuff he's done and said), but that I should be relieved that it won't go anywhere.
She also said that he was probably unsure of how to go about the lunch invite because he may have been starting to talk with that other woman more seriously at the same time. (This other woman, who has brats and also whose elevator doesn't exactly go to the top floor.
) She kept saying though, "You're WAY too good for him, honey. I'm telling you this because I care."
I told her what my other friend (one of the three here who knew) said about how he and I would be a cute couple and she said it sounds like we would be compatible (she said he doesn't ever want kids, or to get married again, and likes living alone, etc.), and maybe one day, especially since she thinks it's not a good idea, re: him and the divorcing redhead and that it won't last.
So, yeah... Apparently this man really is a scumpuppy. I know, better for me to find this out, but I feel so disillusioned at the same time. I told my friend how I felt like he would be sweet if he ever had to let me down, etc, and she kept saying how he does have a good heart and is fun, but if I want someone reliable who'll always be there, he's not it.
She did think my idea to write my address in a Christmas card and say, "bring the mistletoe" was a cute idea. Too bad he's already sticking his mistletoe in somewhere else.
I still feel like someone punched me in the gut.