- doesn't like U2!!!
It's so weird, because one girl, when I brought it up, shot them down completely, and then a few weeks later, was talking about how she liked a few songs..... things like that are not cool to me.
And if you can't enjoy the Joshua Tree at least a little bit......
.....even more......
if you can't enjoy "PRIDE" at least a little bit.......
then that is a turn off, lol
- tatoos, peircings, plastic surgery,
I used to say overly "died hair", but I guess that's not a big deal- if it's something you really want, I don't have a problem with it. I just don;t like "fake-ness"
tatoos and pericings..... the human body.... well,..... especially the female human body, is a masterpeice. Don't ruin it by putting metal through it, or faking yourself up with.... plastic.... or whatever.
Honesty is a turn on for me! In all forms!
(because someone who honestly likes me is 1000x better than someone who loves me in a lie)
- puts up with bad realtionship
especially if you procede to cry about it.
I love being there for people, and I am a good listener, I guess.
But if you "take crap" by letting someone totally disrespect you, that shows a lot about who you are.
I would want "my love" to do anything for me, but that's because I would do anything for "my love"
this ties into reciprocation and what not.
And like in "Ask the old married guy" - sacrificial love is only worthwhile if it's mutual!
- excessive tanning, makeup, etc
I love it when a girl takes care of herself. It shows that things matter to her. But..... if you look like you are from Brazil, and you spend most of your live in the NE USA, (and are originally "white"), then it just is a turn off. It shows you don't like who you are naturally, or, in my mind, it's trying to hard to appease other people. Unless a girl genuninely loves being tanned, then, it's just a tremendous turn off.
Make up is good, but you can't change who you are.
If you don't embrace who you are, then .... it's not a turn off.... I just... I don't know, I just see someone who is not happy with themselves.
(this is actually hard..... I can't find many things that turn me off from girls besides what I already said, and that's sort of like a bunch of theoretical stuff, psychological stuff. I guess, and I've said it before, the most attractive part of a girl is her mind and how she uses it, not mental, but emotional, too.)
Ah..... here's a simple one
- Short hair styles - (like my stepmother, grandmother)
Eh..... I just don't like em.
You don't have hair past your sholders, but..... I like more "feminine" hair styles.
- only listens to rap music
I just can't listen to it all the time. I have nothing against it, and respect it, but it doesn't have the substance I need for me.
Most of these things I list are solid for all people, not just a girl I would date, but all women, and, when applicable, men too.
- someone who is loud/obnoxious
a cliche, but true. I do'nt like those people. And I have sensative ears too, so not a lot of loud screaming..... well......... except for....... um........ the best kind of loud screaming...... heh..... That's more than music to my ears....
-someone who hates sex and thinks it is wrong, evil
Look, if a girl wants to wait until marriage to do it, I think that is amazing and wonderful. But if a woman is negative about it, then I think that's just foolish. Sex is part of being human, to say the least. I'm a sensual person, and that doesn't mean I have to have sex all the time, but if you say, perhaps shot down every innuendo I thought of, that would of course be a turn off.
- fake adoration, counterfeit nurturance
Look, just because you like me, I don't want you to agree with me all the time or lie about things in hopes to make me like you more. And don't be nice to me just to be nice. Sincerity means a lot to me, and I would appreciate that a lot more than anything else. I am a sucker for flirting and flattery, but if you BS me completely, then it won't get you anywheres.
- dislikes tenderness, etc
Some women hate to be touched in any way. My mom was one of those people, who i remember when I was a kid, was like, don't play that around me, because I don't want the ball coming close. Unfortunatley, I got a lot of my reservations about touching people from her. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable if I get a pat on the back, even though I'm getting over that.
But really, I'm a naturally sensual person. A "Taurus" like me lives through the senses, so touching is a big part of my interaction. I like hugs a lot, honestly. And, in not the same way, I can hug a guy like my dad or a good friend. But I prefer a handshake... Anyways, if you are a girl, and you want to get on my good side right away, give me a hug!
- dislikes commitment, opening up
This is something that I have a hard time doiong - opening up sometimes and being honest about my feelings. But I don't have problems with commitment. Some people try to take advantage of that, but I am aware of this...
FOr a girl, though, I know sometimes it takes time, but, if you don't let me in your life a little bit, then I feel uncomfortable about opening up to you, and it feels like there is a lack of seriousness
- blames me all the time for not understanding
Look, I try damn well hard to figure out things and understand. And, being a guy, that garuntees I won't get everything. But a girl needs to appreciate that I am trying, at least. Or more so, she should carefully explain to me what is going on.
If she can't communicate that properly, then that is sort of irratating, because there is seldom a time when I "don't care". BUt women sometimes think guys are supposed to know everything, it seems. I had a discussion in my class---
Just because it's easier for girls to figure guys out, that doesn't mean it's a guys fault if he can never figure a girl out. Women need to take responsability and explain themselves better, just like guys need to try to understand more, or whatver.
It goes both ways
- belches alot, etc....
I guess I like class. And I make an effort not to belch and burp and all of that, too. I do not mind a girl who gets down and dirt, like, enjoys eating chicken wings and getting all dirty or whatever. But.... you know..... it's just not ..... my style, I guess.....
- racist, sexist, etc
My mom is racist, badly
And I just don't like that
If you follow preconceived judgements, then it shows your own insecurities, and all my philosphical reasoning and stuff that I'm sure you don't want me to explain
- SMOKING
Ugh!!!!
AHHHHHHHHHHHH!
No, no , nope.......
I mean, I can...... tolerate ..... it........
But cigarrets, and damn well not pot or weed or drugs.
That's just my choice, and I don't like to do that.
THe smell of smoke is disgusting, and I don't care, I just don't like it.
- doesn't want to be married
That says a lot about the kind of person you are.
Espeically here in America, less and less people want to be married. BUt then again, I hear that in Europe, several couple prefer not to be married. I mean, not so much I want a big ceremony.... that isn't ,,,,,, what I mean.
But someone who is not capable of that level of commitment would be difficult for me, because I'm too damn serious not to be like that.
ALright, I've written a whole hell of a lot. I guess I do that because it's a good way to procrastinate, maybe.
Lastly, I guess,
- hates reading
For my sake, I hope people can put up with the length of all my posts!
Thanks for taking the time, as always
I'll write less next time
I think this is all the major stuff I needed to get out of the way
I just felt I need to.... say it all, because these are my honest answers to "what are your turn offs for the opposite sex".
Thats' all
oh, yeah, onemore
- must enjoy things that last
It seems like a lot of things I do take a lot of time. But that's just because, sometimes, it feels like that;s the best way to do it
I'll just leave it at that