MadelynIris
Refugee
ok - so it's not just about the % of birth defects - there are other moral stigmas associated with it too right?
and so, like african-americans before me, i'm forced to explain that, really, we're not so different after all. it does take the minority to get the majority to understand that we're not sub-human, that our lives and loves are every bit as worthy and complex and joyful and agonizing as yours are and to rid you of your working assumption of the superiority of "non-cousin based marriages" (the way that whites assumed racial superiority over african-americans).
MadelynIris said:if you give me a bit of leeway here:
MadelynIris said:No - I've equated cousin-marriage bigotry with racial predjudice.
MadelynIris said:Yes, underage marriages would be a better comparison.
You guys realize I was just using this as an example of the slippery slope argument. Whether for or against gay marriage - stepping out of the "established, traditional marriage" does encourage those in support of anything but the "traditional" to have their crack at the law in court.
Not that they couldn't before -- It's just that the lawyers will try to build cases on one another, and try to string together arguments based on victories of any kind outside of the "traditional" marriage.
So, bring it on I say. Lets hear it. Cousins, step siblings, adopted siblings, whatever.
and so, like african-americans before me, i'm forced to explain that, really, we're not so different after all. it does take the minority to get the majority to understand that we're not sub-human, that our lives and loves are every bit as worthy and complex and joyful and agonizing as yours are and to rid you of your working assumption of the superiority of "non-cousin based marriages" (the way that whites assumed racial superiority over african-americans).
MadelynIris said:but who claims to be born in love with their cousins
West Virginians?
BonoVoxSupastar said:Now 4 pages and no comparison...
MadelynIris said:http://www.cnn.com/2005/US/04/05/cousins.marriage.ap/index.html
Time to get with the times - let first cousins have the same rights as homosexuals (in some states).
Irvine511 said:
and i'm saying that because you cannot equate the two, the legal equivocation between the two arguments isn't possible.
on a personal note, i don't give a damn about first cousins marrying. but that's not applicable here.
the other fact is that heterosexuals have the option to marry any other heterosexual they wish, barring family members. these first cousins are protesting. they're free to do so. but they are wrong to make links to the gay marriage debate; this is an entirely separate issue. homosexuals are seeking to be able to authentically marry someone since they currently have no options.
the only applicable historical example was the former ban on interracial marriage.
melon said:Just to be contrary, why do we feel the need to interfere with someone else's love interests? I mean, just because I think the thought of marrying any of my first cousins to be disgusting, why should my disgust translate to a law making it illegal? Why do we care? I mean, really.
Melon
This comparison is laughable. You live your life being black, you live your life being gay, you live your life being straight, but who claims to be born in love with their cousin?
MadelynIris said:
Only laughable if you think people aren't discriminated against by their actions.
So, I'm not laughing.
indra said:
First off I don't see where every comparison must be perfectly aligned to be worthy of discussion. In the real world these comparisons WILL be made, and to merely dismiss them out of hand will get you nowhere, and might even make many people oppose you even more strongly. I suggest learning to calmly discuss situations that even only peripherally match, because chances are very good most people are not going to think of perfect matches. And the fact is it's in your best interest not to piss off the people (John and Mary Typical Hetero's who vote) who hold your ability to marry as you wish, by telling them so bluntly that they don't know their asses from their elbows.
Oh, and by the way, even your example of interracial marriages does not match perfectly. After all any person of a particular race can marry any other heterosexual within their race, barring family members. So you'd best not use that comparison either.
melon said:Just to be contrary, why do we feel the need to interfere with someone else's love interests? I mean, just because I think the thought of marrying any of my first cousins to be disgusting, why should my disgust translate to a law making it illegal? Why do we care? I mean, really.