y'know I've been thinking about that. Trying to put myself in her place, and it does explain the "he needs her more than she needs him" thing. I should think she learned a long time ago to try and block all that stuff out, otherwise it would drive her mad. She probably has developed a sort of armour to protect herself from what normally would drive a wife insane. How could you live with constantly wondering what your man is doing, etc etc? You have to learn to make it a non-issue. I can only speak from personal experience. My husband is a massage therapist. If I really let myself think about all the naked women he rubs all day long, it would make me crazy, so I've disconnected from it, and I just dont think about it. Most of the time.