joyfulgirl said:
I absolutely positively cannot imagine in my wildest nightmares having sex with the person I intend to spend the rest of my life with for the very first time on my wedding night. Not no way not no how.
I don't have to imagine it. I did it. It was awesome, and it still is.
I'm not saying this to try and put any body down, or to say that it somehow makes me better than anyone else. It's just that reading all these comments, it sounds like no one thinks this is possible, or that it ever happens.
Monogamy happens.
My wife and I have never had sex (or any "alternative form of sex") with anyone else, ever. I know that neither of us ever will, as long as we are both living. That's one of several commitments we've made to each other. Monogomy is not some far-fetched ideal, it's a choice and a very real one. It's simple, not easy. But it does happen.
I would not buy a car without test-driving it first. I would also not drop in a new 302 engine with an Edelbrock manifold, Hedman headers, straightpipes, flowmasters, and sway bars without buying the car first. (If no one is catching the analogy here....some say sex with someone you're not married to is like test driving a car before you buy it, I say it's like putting a whole bunch of money into a car you haven't even bought. Money you can never get back.)
Again, I'm not trying to go off on some holier-than-thou trip, I just want to point out that people can be healthy, sexual, and monogamous
in spite of high sperm production or the inherent advantages of male genitalia for procreation (see Lilly's post).