I have thought about starting a thread like this for a while, but what I experienced over the weekend has inspired me to do this.
I admit that I am a shy person. I'm the type who needs time to lighten up around someone new, have trouble making eye contact in a group setting with people I don't know (but eventually I relax), and I'm not someone to tell my life story to people I just met. If I'm feeling really shy and anxious, I might even stutter a little, which is horrible. I really wish I could be more relaxed and outgoing, but I just can't.
But even more frustrating is the way people perceive me. Because I am a quiet person, they assume that I am a snob, that I have no personality or simply there is something wrong with me. And I've had people tell me that to my face. I've also had people try to force me out of my comfort zone, and that upset me because I felt they were not being considerate. I understand more outgoing people are baffled by shy people - but outgoing people can baffle me sometimes!
Anyway, I found this group for shy people and I attended one of their meetings over the weekend. We had to get into small groups and discuss our shyness and later rotate. The meeting was amazing! We all shared our war stories, and it felt so good to be understood by others and know that we weren't alone.
So I wanted to start this thread for fellow shy people, where we can express our frustrations, and also say loud and proud: I'm shy and I'm OK with it!
I admit that I am a shy person. I'm the type who needs time to lighten up around someone new, have trouble making eye contact in a group setting with people I don't know (but eventually I relax), and I'm not someone to tell my life story to people I just met. If I'm feeling really shy and anxious, I might even stutter a little, which is horrible. I really wish I could be more relaxed and outgoing, but I just can't.
But even more frustrating is the way people perceive me. Because I am a quiet person, they assume that I am a snob, that I have no personality or simply there is something wrong with me. And I've had people tell me that to my face. I've also had people try to force me out of my comfort zone, and that upset me because I felt they were not being considerate. I understand more outgoing people are baffled by shy people - but outgoing people can baffle me sometimes!
Anyway, I found this group for shy people and I attended one of their meetings over the weekend. We had to get into small groups and discuss our shyness and later rotate. The meeting was amazing! We all shared our war stories, and it felt so good to be understood by others and know that we weren't alone.
So I wanted to start this thread for fellow shy people, where we can express our frustrations, and also say loud and proud: I'm shy and I'm OK with it!