nathan1977
Rock n' Roll Doggie
[QUOTE="Irvine511]
the quality if the parenting has to do with the individuals involved rather than their sexual orientation.[/quote]
This statement is a little questionable -- we've discussed in other threads the varying benefits of gender essentialism, and I do believe that gender is important -- but I can also see your point that two loving parents are better than one, regardless of gender. I was visiting a clinic in Africa with some friends a few years ago where babies were crying -- parents had died of AIDS. The nurse said that developmentally, what those babies needed was someone to hold them. The light went on for me in terms of the fact that a baby's desperate need to be held and cared for has no gender-or-orientation-specific need. The need for loving, positive gender models will come later; those babies needed to be held and loved now. And there weren't enough arms. So for me, the more arms the better -- gay or straight.
My wife and I are friends with a lesbian couple who conceived via IVF and have twins. The couple has their challenges (who doesn't?), but I can attest to the fact that they're doing the best they can to raise their kids and love them the best way they know how.
the quality if the parenting has to do with the individuals involved rather than their sexual orientation.[/quote]
This statement is a little questionable -- we've discussed in other threads the varying benefits of gender essentialism, and I do believe that gender is important -- but I can also see your point that two loving parents are better than one, regardless of gender. I was visiting a clinic in Africa with some friends a few years ago where babies were crying -- parents had died of AIDS. The nurse said that developmentally, what those babies needed was someone to hold them. The light went on for me in terms of the fact that a baby's desperate need to be held and cared for has no gender-or-orientation-specific need. The need for loving, positive gender models will come later; those babies needed to be held and loved now. And there weren't enough arms. So for me, the more arms the better -- gay or straight.
What I do know is that all my LG friends who have children are doing the best they can
My wife and I are friends with a lesbian couple who conceived via IVF and have twins. The couple has their challenges (who doesn't?), but I can attest to the fact that they're doing the best they can to raise their kids and love them the best way they know how.