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On the bright side, when they're in their mid-40's after their 3rd divorce, those assholish "cocky" skills will come in handy when they're trolling bars to get laid, and to ultimately pick up wife number 4!
On the bright side, when they're in their mid-40's after their 3rd divorce, those assholish "cocky" skills will come in handy when they're trolling bars to get laid, and to ultimately pick up wife number 4!
dont misunderstand me, im not saying he needs to be one of those arrogant prick types that treat women like shit.
im saying having confidence and being able to make her laugh, sometimes with midly insulting funny comments, and in other ways is a better way to attract women, as opposed to trying to be her best friend and always agreeing with her and sucking up and all that stuff. being confident and kind of cocky/funny (in moderation) doesnt mean being a compete asshole and treating her like shit, you still have to be friendly, just dont try too much to be her friend is all im saying.
here's a couple "cocky/funny" examples i remember using
talking about movies with girl at work
her: i like 40 y/o virgin, superbad, knocked up, etc
me oh, so you like all those dirty movies about sex?
her: *laughs, face reddens* nooo
me: get away from me, you fiend! (in joking voice)
her: *laughs harder*, tells me to shut up in playful voice
I just threw up a little.
Advice on attraction
DeAngelo contends most men lack a deep understanding of women, and are thus at a loss to attract the ones they desire. As a result, men are forced to accept whomever selects them.
DeAngelo also believes that women are not as obsessed with the appearance of prospective mates as males are.[11] Further, he contends that typical male courting gambits such as excessive flattery and gifting are seen by women as manipulative and insecure, and are thus ultimately unattractive.[12] Instead, he contends that "attraction isn't a choice" -- women cannot be bribed into choosing to feel attraction. Rather, DeAngelo asserts that a woman will feel attraction automatically when she perceives a man to have certain characteristics such as confidence, lightheartedness, humor and independence, qualities he labels "cocky and funny" or "cocky funny."[13]
Thus, while a typical man might hope to appeal to a desirable woman with obsequiousness and unbridled enthusiasm, carefully hiding any reservations he might have about her, a "cocky and funny" one would actually make his reservations abundantly clear from the outset, albeit flirtatiously and with humor.
[edit] Used terms
* The Inner Wuss: a character trait of men developed through time that causes them to become submissive around women in order to get their approval. DeAngelo claims that women prefer men who are of higher status than they.[14] (see also Nice guy).
* Cocky and funny: also known as 'cocky comedy' can be called flirting, this refers to combination of arrogance and humor. A humorous mock arrogance intended to communicate with intelligence and being 'a challenge'. DeAngelo points out that it is important to get the balance right, as just using 'cocky' "comes across as insecure, and comedy alone usually comes across as goofy and dumb." "Cocky and Funny" is often abbreviated as "C&F."[15][16]
* Counterintuitive behavior: DeAngelo's description of some of his techniques to attract women, as they are the opposite of what most people think is attractive. Examples of such behavior include teasing a woman offhandedly and refusing to compliment her appearance. Can also be phrased as Don't behave in a boring or predictable way.[17]
* Life changes: DeAngelo reiterates that the purpose of his programs is to effect a complete personality and lifestyle change among men that will help them achieve dating success.[18]
* Emulate the Successful: DeAngelo encourages the following and emulation of those successful with women. He records interviews with those very successful in dating and releases them monthly as part of a subscription service.
* Sexual Communication: DeAngelo's principle of a 'secret mating language' or 'secret mating dance' that takes place between a man and a woman before they can mate.
* Reframing: Restructuring one's own beliefs set into a new one, such as changing self-doubt to positive thinking.
I am actually going to be blunt and say it; move on.
dont misunderstand me, im not saying he needs to be one of those arrogant prick types that treat women like shit.
im saying having confidence and being able to make her laugh, sometimes with midly insulting funny comments, and in other ways is a better way to attract women, as opposed to trying to be her best friend and always agreeing with her and sucking up and all that stuff. being confident and kind of cocky/funny (in moderation) doesnt mean being a compete asshole and treating her like shit, you still have to be friendly, just dont try too much to be her friend is all im saying.
there will be plenty of girls there who dont like douches.
Either that or get your hands on some rohypnol.