the GUY is a WAREHOUSE guy facing UNEMPLOYMENT who is GETTING to go to ATLANTA for a weekend AWAY for FREE. leave the POOR bastard fucking ALONE.
you and your little coven sound like the most insecure, clingy, soul sucking, independence killers i've ever heard of. with the scenarios you develop and then believe in to the extent that any logic brooks no argument, there is some government out there that will hire you to be judge and jury to anyone who challenges their regime.
maybe your friend should dye her hair and see if he stays home. oh wait, not noticing got some other poor fucker in trouble and probably some poor hispanic girl on a watch list, never mind.