youtooellen
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I hope anyone could help me out with this. It's quite... long so I apologize, but this has been driving me nuts the past week or so, and I would appreciate any advice, help, suggestions, anything from anyone. Thanks.
Well here goes...
So I've currently been going out with this guy from my church youth group. He's a senior in high school now, and I'm a junior. We've liked each other since my freshmen year, or also in other words his sophomore year. He's best friend's with my brother who is also a senior. But the thing is, this guy and I have been going out for maybe a month and a half now, and before we started going out, we were great friends and talked to each other about everything. But on our dates and whatnots, we talk so much and of course I love our conversations, but sometimes when we show affection towards each other, I feel really.. uncomfortable. And I feel like my feelings are slowly fading away or something. When we hold hands and whatnot, I get awkward.
And in school I feel like I'm gaining interest for other guys. For example, at school there's this one guy who I've heard from friends, his favorite band is Van Halen and he's shy and everything, so I really want to get to know him. But I feel like I could be confusing this feeling of wanting to get to know him as liking him?
I feel INCREDIBLY guilty to feel this way, because I've never been in a situation like this before. And I feel so bad cause I feel like I'm betraying my boyfriend in a way. And I think I should break up with him because we rarely see each other and when we do, I always end up having to cancel plans with my friends. And when I cancel plans on them they get all defensive and remind me of the 'chicks before dicks' rule. These friends and I have been friends since kindergarten/Pre-K. Yes. Insane, I know.
But anyways, if I do break up with him, things could get bad. Because during our relationship, his friendship with my brother drifted apart a little and I could tell that their friendship is already dying. I feel so guilty for that too. I am also his first relationship, and I'm worried that if I do hurt him, it might affect his senior year (college apps.).
I'm thinking it's because I've lost attraction towards him. And as much as I make this sound so magnified, it's because the past years that I did like him, I liked him SO much. And of course I love him as a great friend, I'm worried too that if I end the relationship, our friendship will most definitely come to an end.
sorry for it being so long and 'dramatic'. Any help, advice, suggestions are welcome. I'm in desperate need of any.
Well here goes...
So I've currently been going out with this guy from my church youth group. He's a senior in high school now, and I'm a junior. We've liked each other since my freshmen year, or also in other words his sophomore year. He's best friend's with my brother who is also a senior. But the thing is, this guy and I have been going out for maybe a month and a half now, and before we started going out, we were great friends and talked to each other about everything. But on our dates and whatnots, we talk so much and of course I love our conversations, but sometimes when we show affection towards each other, I feel really.. uncomfortable. And I feel like my feelings are slowly fading away or something. When we hold hands and whatnot, I get awkward.
And in school I feel like I'm gaining interest for other guys. For example, at school there's this one guy who I've heard from friends, his favorite band is Van Halen and he's shy and everything, so I really want to get to know him. But I feel like I could be confusing this feeling of wanting to get to know him as liking him?
I feel INCREDIBLY guilty to feel this way, because I've never been in a situation like this before. And I feel so bad cause I feel like I'm betraying my boyfriend in a way. And I think I should break up with him because we rarely see each other and when we do, I always end up having to cancel plans with my friends. And when I cancel plans on them they get all defensive and remind me of the 'chicks before dicks' rule. These friends and I have been friends since kindergarten/Pre-K. Yes. Insane, I know.
But anyways, if I do break up with him, things could get bad. Because during our relationship, his friendship with my brother drifted apart a little and I could tell that their friendship is already dying. I feel so guilty for that too. I am also his first relationship, and I'm worried that if I do hurt him, it might affect his senior year (college apps.).
I'm thinking it's because I've lost attraction towards him. And as much as I make this sound so magnified, it's because the past years that I did like him, I liked him SO much. And of course I love him as a great friend, I'm worried too that if I end the relationship, our friendship will most definitely come to an end.
sorry for it being so long and 'dramatic'. Any help, advice, suggestions are welcome. I'm in desperate need of any.