what should my mate do???

[spinninghead77]

Originally posted by joerags
Why wasn't he with his girlfriend, instead of with the lads? See, if he was with his girlfriend, this would not have happened. When you have a girlfriend or boyfriend, they come first instead of your friends. Obviously, the girlfriend trusted him with his lads to go out in the first place, so she must be a pretty nice girl to begin with. So I would say your friend fucked up big-time and doesn't know how good he has it.

I disagree. I think that cheating is horrible, however, just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean that he should always be with his girlfriend and never be with his lad. Everyone (even people that have been married for 50 years) deserve nights out with their friends. She doesn't have to be a "pretty-nice girl" to "let" her boyfriend go out with his friends. She would have to be a pretty horrible girlfriend to not let him, and he would have to be a wuss to put up with a girlfriend that decides what he is allowed to do, or not to do.

[U2Girl1978]

Originally posted by boystupidboy

In his early 20's,still too young to settle down IMO

Ok..Well it sure as hell doesn't give him the right to go sleeping around on someone! Sorry, but he's an idiot. If he feels tied down maybe he shouldn't be with her in the first place. This really skeeves me out.

[dandy]

Originally posted by spinninghead77
I disagree. I think that cheating is horrible, however, just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean that he should always be with his girlfriend and never be with his lad. Everyone (even people that have been married for 50 years) deserve nights out with their friends. She doesn't have to be a "pretty-nice girl" to "let" her boyfriend go out with his friends. She would have to be a pretty horrible girlfriend to not let him, and he would have to be a wuss to put up with a girlfriend that decides what he is allowed to do, or not to do.

well said.

[Liesje]

Originally posted by U2Girl1978


Ok..Well it sure as hell doesn't give him the right to go sleeping around on someone! Sorry, but he's an idiot. If he feels tied down maybe he shouldn't be with her in the first place. This really skeeves me out.

I agree, I wasn't really sure how to respond to that comment, as if screwing random girls with any assortment of STDs is the alternative to "settling down"

Dude, there IS such a thing as a NORMAL, committed relationship. We're not asking them to get married and buy a house.

Your friend is pretty damn immature if you ask me. The only difference between him and a three year old is that he KNEW what he was doing was wrong.

[V Nura]

Originally posted by Dr_Macphisto
I think your friend is FUCKED

is that a medical opinion Dr macphisto?

My question is if he was out with friends...did anyone tell him to toss an icepack on his crotch

[OnFire]

Well, I'm not from your part of the world but maybe you should say something to him like, "It's blokes like you that ruin it for the rest of us who just want to go out for pints with our mates once in awhile and not shag the first bird with a face like a bag of spanners to kick up her knickers in some alleyway."

[scatteroflight]

Originally posted by daygloeyes2
Tell your friend to think with his other head.

In the past year, at least a couple of people of both genders have said something to me like "guys think some of the time with their brains and the rest of the time with other parts of their bodies." Sorry...don't want to turn this into a guy-slagging session, but I did think it was an interesting comment!

[KhanadaRhodes]

Originally posted by boystupidboy
In his early 20's,still too young to settle down IMO

that's such a ridiculous preconception that there's a minimum age at which you can settle down. it all depends on whether you've met a person you can envision yourself spending (in theory) the rest of your life with, or at least someone you want to be with for the unforeseeable future.

for starters, he needs to march himself down to a clinic and get himself checked out. then, he needs to come clean to his girlfriend, regardless of whether he contracted any diseases or not. she deserves to know.

btw, this isn't the first thread you've made in here about a "friend" of yours. is this the same friend you talked about before who hit a rocky patch with his girlfriend?

[Angela Harlem]

Originally posted by OnFire
Well, I'm not from your part of the world but maybe you should say something to him like, "It's blokes like you that ruin it for the rest of us who just want to go out for pints with our mates once in awhile and not shag the first bird with a face like a bag of spanners to kick up her knickers in some alleyway."

You are so either a pom or aussie

[OnFire]

Originally posted by Angela Harlem


You are so either a pom or aussie

Fooled ya! I'm from Virginia, USA. I got the "bag o spanners" bit from boystupidboy in another forum (love that phrase), the rest I just picked up from watching Monty Python or the occasional PBS show.

Boy, I hope your mate has fessed up and taken a STD test by now, the rotter.

[meegannie]

Originally posted by OnFire
Well, I'm not from your part of the world but maybe you should say something to him like, "It's blokes like you that ruin it for the rest of us who just want to go out for pints with our mates once in awhile and not shag the first bird with a face like a bag of spanners to kick up her knickers in some alleyway."

That was some of the best use of non-US slang I've seen by an American.

[Laura M]

Originally posted by boystupidboy

In his early 20's,still too young to settle down IMO

Does being too young to settle down (what is the perfect age for that in your opinion?) excuse his behaviour or something? I don't think so.

If he's prepared to have a "humping session" with a stranger then he should also have the guts to confess to his girlfriend too.

I was thinking the same thing as Mr. Baw, these my friend stories are never usually about a friend.

[carrieluvv]

Originally posted by boystupidboy

In his early 20's,still too young to settle down IMO

if he really feels that hes too young to settle down then why doesnt he turn this into a learning expirience...

first...tell the girl hes in a "serious" relationship with what he did
and then see what it morphs into ...see how much it hurts her...then when she comes back with an " i did the same thing to you " and on and on and on........

getting drunk and shaggin in the alley.......not a good habit...
im sure hes a good buddy of yours so do him a favor and yourself a favor and babysit eachother when your out that is if you really feel that this was bad .....

[carrieluvv]

BTW......whats a bag of spanners?

[Angela Harlem]

A spanner is a bolt tightening tool. I think Americans use another word, maybe a wrench?

That is the funniest shit, OnFire

[OnFire]

Thanks Angela, and also thanks for defining "bag of spanners" since I only had the vaguest idea what it meant.

Just to throw in a older married guys percpective into this situation though, I don't see the mention of the mate's age as an excuse (because it is about as weak as they get) but a way of explaining why the situation occured, maturity being the other relevant factor.

Young men can have hard time saying no to lil' Elvis, especially when fulled by alchohol, because they don't have experience dealing with the consequences of their actions. No matter what advise you give your mate (or yourself, if applicable) there will be consequences. The girlfriend will find out about it one way or another, the worst possible way being from someone other than the person who cheated. Hearts will be broken, the circle of friends will discuss why it happened. Your mate will have a hard time on the rebound because any potential new girlfriend will be repulsed by the back alley shagging (wasn't there at least a car back seat available?)

Your mate and the girlfriend will hopefully emerge from this with no STDs and wiser for the experience.