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#61 |
The Male
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I just don't respect dishonesty. In the context of a mutually agreed upon monogamous relationship, the person screwing around without being honest about their needs is ultimately disrespecting their partner and keeping them from the freedom that they experience through dishonesty. That's fucked up.
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what i find interesting is that women tend to think that people cheat because there's something wrong with a relationship, someone is unfulfilled somehow. sometimes, people cheat for no real reason. that the stars aligned, an opportunity presented itself, and someone didn't use their best judgment. it could be as superficial. i think many women find that scary. the lack of psychological complexity behind a lot of it. italics because i want to underscore the fact that i'm speaking in generalities. there's a premeditation, however, to AM that makes it seem like these people are kind of shitty, in a basic kind of way. |
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that is it exactly!! it is one thing if a person is out of town on a business trip, has a few drinks, has a fling, and has remorse. people are human, relationships should be built on trust and intimacy. people should work, communicate within their relationships not go to A M put up a list of things you want that you might find on a menu at a brothel. once people start going outside of a relationship, is their married sex going to get better, or seem even more boring, unsatisfying. this is an abandonment of the partner for selfish reasons. On A M one is continuously, and repeatedly affirming a lack of caring for the partner and this is so much worse that the typical slip up in a marriage that might be salvageable. |
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it's also interesting how "dating" apps have entered the picture and perhaps changed the landscape.
i know the gay ones, and my hetero friends talk about Tinder. i assume it's the same -- someone has a thumbnail and a short profile and a distance. you chat. it goes from there. it's likely that the relative anonymity of such an app actually allows people to be more honest with their desires and what they are looking for that night, or that hour. many people, men and women, may just be in the mood for some NSA sex IRL. |
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My issue with all of this and my dislike for the gloating in the media over this entire episode is not because I want to protect the adulterers of the world (even though 90% of the accounts on the site were either BOTs or hacked emails)... it's the act of hacking and exposing confidential information it's self... no matter what it's about. There are hackers looking at all the attention this is getting, how celebrated it almost is, and they'll try to copycat with another site, or app; be it Snapchat, or tinder or grindr or whatever. And then how many more people's private lives will be thrust out into the open? How many people will be shamed because of something they do in the privacy of their own home with consulting adults? How many people in the closet will be thrust out into the public eye before they're ready? We shrug at this one because it's dealing with, for the most part, assholes. But we should be defending the assholes, because the next one down the line could very well be much different. |
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Those cases might be in the extreme minority, I don't know, but they do mean we can't paint with too broad of a brush. I'm just hesitant to say that everyone on AM went in with the intention of betraying their significant other on a long-term basis, as some comments on this issue have suggested. |
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Been reading all of the posts here. Just a couple of thoughts:
-Hacking is wrong regardless of who it is affecting. -In regard to cheating, I've always operated by The Golden Rule. Treat others the way you wish to be treated. So if you wouldn't wish to be cheated on by someone you supposedly love, then don't cheat on someone you supposedly love. Have I thought about cheating or fantasized about? Yes. But, I've never acted on those thoughts. Just as I've thought about murdering someone, but never acted on that either. ![]() |
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I'm going to bring up Amy Schumer again: she was interviewing a phone sex worker, and the person said that the most common persona she was asked to adopt was of a girlfriend or wife just chatting with the caller about day-to-day life. Speaks to the crushing loneliness so many people experience on a daily basis.
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