(I had literally no idea where to put this, mods, so just stuck it in here... feel free to move )
For the last year or so now I have really wanted a lock on my bedroom door. First and foremost, because I'm a such a paranoid person and like the idea of feeling safe and locked in at night. Also, there's my mum.... I don't think she looks around my room when I'm out, but she has an awful habit of 'finding' things when she was 'cleaning.' She has 'found' a condom in my room (there for literally the most innocent of reasons), a packet of cigarettes from when some friends left them in my room after a party. And she is always moving things around, taking stuff ("I thought this could do with a wash..." etc). It really, really annoys me - because it's my space, and I can do what I want with it. There aren't any 'you have to tidy your room!' rules because if its a mess, then I deal with it. Yet she's still always coming in and I'm getting a bit fed up of it - I'm 17, and need some space. And because I have next to no storage in there, I have all sorts of private things littered about - letters, things I've written, christmas presents etc.
I don't think it's completely unreasonable to want a lock on my door, but for some unquestionable reason my mum has told me quite firmly 'no' and not given any justification for that decision. I'm considering just putting a lock on my door when she's out, but I'd really like to avoid the confrontation. After turning up at home with 2 tattoos and 3 piercings in the past, I'm not a big fan of just thrusting things onto her. They didn't go down too well (slight understatement there) and I doubt this would either...
So I don't know what to do! Maybe I'm being ridiculous, do other people let their kids have locks on their bedroom doors?
For the last year or so now I have really wanted a lock on my bedroom door. First and foremost, because I'm a such a paranoid person and like the idea of feeling safe and locked in at night. Also, there's my mum.... I don't think she looks around my room when I'm out, but she has an awful habit of 'finding' things when she was 'cleaning.' She has 'found' a condom in my room (there for literally the most innocent of reasons), a packet of cigarettes from when some friends left them in my room after a party. And she is always moving things around, taking stuff ("I thought this could do with a wash..." etc). It really, really annoys me - because it's my space, and I can do what I want with it. There aren't any 'you have to tidy your room!' rules because if its a mess, then I deal with it. Yet she's still always coming in and I'm getting a bit fed up of it - I'm 17, and need some space. And because I have next to no storage in there, I have all sorts of private things littered about - letters, things I've written, christmas presents etc.
I don't think it's completely unreasonable to want a lock on my door, but for some unquestionable reason my mum has told me quite firmly 'no' and not given any justification for that decision. I'm considering just putting a lock on my door when she's out, but I'd really like to avoid the confrontation. After turning up at home with 2 tattoos and 3 piercings in the past, I'm not a big fan of just thrusting things onto her. They didn't go down too well (slight understatement there) and I doubt this would either...
So I don't know what to do! Maybe I'm being ridiculous, do other people let their kids have locks on their bedroom doors?