sulawesigirl4
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This is something I've been curious about for a while. What do you all think about corporal punishment, namely "spanking" as used in discipline of children? Is it a parents right or is it always child abuse? Should the state have any say over this or no?
Myself, I grew up in a somewhat strict home. My parents while very loving did use spanking as a form of discipline and I hated it (of course). However, in retrospect I can't say that I am worse off or emotionally scarred for life as a result. I know there are some who propose that it just teaches children that violence is the answer to problems, but in my own life I haven't found that to be the case. I don't have violent tendencies and I've never struck anyone. My parents were always very clear about actions that would result in spanking and almost always did not distribute this punishment while in anger. (Usually I got the sad "this is hurting me more than it hurts you" speech. lol).
On the other hand, there are so many people out there whose idea of child discipline is to reason with the kid until they are screaming their heads off at each other, angry, and THEN resort to physical punishment. To me, that's more like abuse because it is unpredictable and creates instability for the child.
I don't know if this rambling makes any sense. It's not an issue I have clarity or conclusions on yet (obviously) and as I don't have any children of my own, I can't say what I'd do as a parent.
But anyways, I'm curious as to your thoughts.
-sula
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Myself, I grew up in a somewhat strict home. My parents while very loving did use spanking as a form of discipline and I hated it (of course). However, in retrospect I can't say that I am worse off or emotionally scarred for life as a result. I know there are some who propose that it just teaches children that violence is the answer to problems, but in my own life I haven't found that to be the case. I don't have violent tendencies and I've never struck anyone. My parents were always very clear about actions that would result in spanking and almost always did not distribute this punishment while in anger. (Usually I got the sad "this is hurting me more than it hurts you" speech. lol).
On the other hand, there are so many people out there whose idea of child discipline is to reason with the kid until they are screaming their heads off at each other, angry, and THEN resort to physical punishment. To me, that's more like abuse because it is unpredictable and creates instability for the child.
I don't know if this rambling makes any sense. It's not an issue I have clarity or conclusions on yet (obviously) and as I don't have any children of my own, I can't say what I'd do as a parent.
But anyways, I'm curious as to your thoughts.
-sula
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~I want to play the guitar very badly, and I do play the guitar very badly - Bono~
Take a virtual tour of U2's Dublin... Crzy4Bono's U2 page with some of Sula's Dublin pic's
Sula's Europe and U2 Concert Pics