Diane L
Rock n' Roll Doggie FOB
Happy anniversary!
financeguy said:NBC, do you ever see Christianity being reunited? Do you agree with moves towards ecumenism?
earthshell said:does your wife have a mating call?
stammer476 said:What type of church do you attend?
What got you interested in that church?
nbcrusader said:
I am currently an elder at St. Andrews Presbyterian Church.
foray said:Do you have a rule about keeping/not keeping confidants that are of the opposite sex? Eg. you shouldn't confide private/intimate details of your marriage (problems) to another woman, even though you are platonic friends...
For Honor said:What do you think is the most important thing when it comes to picking someone to marry? I know communication, but do you have any other reccomendations or signs to look for?
learn2kneel said:Yeah for Presbyterians, my dad is a presbyterian minister. Is your church PCA?
Moonlit_Angel said:I'm sure you and your wife have had quite a good number of disagreements/arguments/what have you over the years...did you immediately find a way to work through them at the beginning of your relationship, or did it take a while before you found the best way to solve the problem at hand? And does the solution differ depending on the disagreement (you handle the more major disagreements differently from the minor ones, for example)? And are there any arguments you wish you'd handled better?
BlueStar said:I've been married almost 10 months now. If you could give newlyweds just one piece of advice, what would it be?
nbcrusader said:
I probably wouldn't confide private/intimate details of our marriage to just about anyone, save a very close personal friend (who is male). I guess I don't need a rule regarding the opposite sex as I haven't/wouldn't develop such a close relationship.
While I have many friends who are women, I would not spend time with them outside a group setting. I want to avoid any appearance of improper behavior - even if I know nothing improper is happening, I don't want to give someone else the opportunity to be suspicious.
nbcrusader said:Solving problems varies greatly. Some have been worked out over the course of years, while others are solved in a day.
Originally posted by nbcrusader
Part of solving a problem is learning how your mate solves problems. I tend to think through to a logical conclusion and expect a problem to be solved. My wife works through it differently, addressing emotional aspects that my logic skips.
Originally posted by nbcrusader
Of course, there have been problems we wished we had addressed/resolved much earlier. But we both see the marriage getting better every day and avoid digging up old garbage.
This is interesting. Personally, I would want to better my friendships with females in general because I see it as a way to improve relationships, although I think my fiance would be very uncomfortable with the idea.Irvine511 said:why wouldn't you want to develop a close relationship with another woman? it sounds like, from your description, you're more worried about the appearance of impropriety as opposed to the possible benefits of having a close friend of the opposite gender. in my experience -- though i'm kind of a wild card these days -- having close opposite-gender friends is a great way to help you through rough patches with your partner/spouse as they can provide valuable insight.
Macfistowannabe said:Personally, I would want to better my friendships with females in general because I see it as a way to improve relationships
Angela Harlem said:This might be a question you dont wish to answer, so please say so if you would rather not, but how did your lack of religion fare in the early days? Your wife sounds like a very dedicated lady with her (and now your) church and if I can leap to a grand assumption it seems that she would have been searching for a partner with something similar in their life - which, if I may assume again, it seemed early on, you didn't quite have. At all.
I think my questions have a few parts. Did she influence you directly or indirectly to seek such a religious belief? Would your relationship have survived if you hadn't found a similar path? And for you personally, do you feel you would have found this path without your wife being in your life at any stage of the relationship?
Irvine511 said:why wouldn't you want to develop a close relationship with another woman? it sounds like, from your description, you're more worried about the appearance of impropriety as opposed to the possible benefits of having a close friend of the opposite gender. in my experience -- though i'm kind of a wild card these days -- having close opposite-gender friends is a great way to help you through rough patches with your partner/spouse as they can provide valuable insight.
pax said:Do you believe in taking a night to sleep on problems or angry, or do you believe in staying up and fighting/discussing until you reach a solution? I'm from the latter camp and wouldn't have it any other way, but I'm interested to know if there are people who can "sleep on" being pissed off.
Moonlit_Angel said:What kinds have been solved over the years, and what kinds have been solved in a day (I'd assume the simpler ones would take a day or so?)?
nbcrusader said:The "problems" that were solved over time were big picture issues: finances and sex. Getting on the same page with a budget and bedroom expectations takes time and usually are comprised of many sub issues that are dealt with at different times.
Smaller issues may deal with things related to the kids, the house, vacations, etc. Those can be worked though in a relatively short period of time.