Irvine511
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well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
well, it's official.
Memphis and I are engaged.
For instance, my aunt had a lesbian marriage last year and my grandma stood up at the reception and shouted, "will someone PLEASE tell me who is the bride and who is the groom."
Dear Lord.
it is a marriage, not a "lesbian marriage"
I think the problems with the children are more complex. The behavioral issues sort of came to light when my aunt first "came out of the closet" so to speak. The marriage was only more awkward for them, bit not a root cause. The eldest son ran away and joined the Navy only to be killed by a texting driver while on leave (I'm not blaming my aunt for the car accident - just stating he ran away). Her other children are doing okay, but they are certainly struggling with the idea that their mom is now married to another woman. I don't think my grandma has that much influence anymore - but she did make me stop parking my car in front of her home because I had one of the Darwin bumper decals back in 1993 (the one with the Christian fish and the feet...I thought I was so clever).That's really awful. I remember you had hinted that the children in their marriage -- it is a marriage, not a "lesbian marriage" -- had some difficulties being the children of a same-sex couple. Perhaps this might have something to do with it? Not this incident in particular, but sounds like there's a lack of acceptance there that the child likely absorbs.
As for our families, everyone is fine and happy and the important people plan on attending. I'm sure it's hard for our parents in some ways, but for very different reasons that are too complex to go into here (in a nutshell, Memphis is from a fire and brimstone tradition, I'm from American Beauty-style white suburban perfectionism land), but that's their problem, and not one that would be too much different than an interracial or an inter-religious marriage for people who are a little bit racist and a little bit prejudiced. Literally everyone else is happy for us, and finds it somewhat unremarkable. We've been together 8 years and own a house -- why wouldn't we be married?
I think the problems with the children are more complex. The behavioral issues sort of came to light when my aunt first "came out of the closet" so to speak. The marriage was only more awkward for them, bit not a root cause. The eldest son ran away and joined the Navy only to be killed by a texting driver while on leave (I'm not blaming my aunt for the car accident - just stating he ran away). Her other children are doing okay, but they are certainly struggling with the idea that their mom is now married to another woman. I don't think my grandma has that much influence anymore - but she did make me stop parking my car in front of her home because I had one of the Darwin bumper decals back in 1993 (the one with the Christian fish and the feet...I thought I was so clever).
That makes sense. I guess that was about what I would expect. Although I would probably keep an eye on Memphis' bro cousins speaking out...
If either of my kids turn out gay (although at 14 - I'm fairly certain my stepdaughter prefers boys), I'm certain I would still love them and try to be a great dad. But I must admit - it would be difficult for me. I know I know - that makes me sound like Archie Bunker - but it's how I feel.