ylimeU2
Rock n' Roll Doggie
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I don't really know what I'm hoping to find here, but I'll go ahead and put this out there, anyway. Maybe just consider it a bit of venting.
A few months ago, my friend came back from hiking the Appalachian Trail. She had been hiking with her boyfriend, and came home well before finishing. She couldn't really afford a place of her own, especially when she had her cat with her. I offered her the extra room at my condo, provided our cats got along. Which they do.
However, my cat is 21 years old. He's a wee bit cranky. He is blind in one eye. He is losing his hearing. And, he's diabetic and has arthritis. He's part siamese, so he's always been very vocal, but he talks more the older he gets. I understand it is annoying, as he annoys the heck out of me, too sometimes. But some of the things she says and does is way out of line. I was prompted to post this just as she was telling his to shut the f* up and shooing him out of the kitchen with her foot. I've also seen her push him out of the way on other occasions or abruptly throw him off the counter or table (she allows her cat to do both, as do I, because I'll admit, my cat makes the rules). I've asked her not to do this, because of his arthritis, and if she wants him down, please just set him on the floor. Which she doesn't seem to do.
My cat is important to me. And while I know he can be a pain in the ass, I have different solutions for dealing with him in his old age, which I've shared with my roommate. I've had him since i was 7 years old and I'm seriously considering asking her to leave over this. We have an informal lease that states it can be ended at any time, for any reason, provided at least a months notice is given.
Her boyfriend has less than a month before he thinks he will finish the hike. He is planning on staying with his mom when he does and saving up some money. She was planning on staying here, until they both get some money together and can get a place together again. I don't need a roommate, I took her in because she needed a place to go that would allow her to have a cat.
So, I guess I want to know if anyone has any kind of experience with this. I won't lie...having the extra money is nice and I don't want to ruin the friendship over this. I don't really need the money, but preserving the friendship is important. Especially since we've lived together without any other problems. But, I have had this cat for a long time and his health and happiness is important to me. Any advice on what I can say to her to her without sounding like a bitch?
A few months ago, my friend came back from hiking the Appalachian Trail. She had been hiking with her boyfriend, and came home well before finishing. She couldn't really afford a place of her own, especially when she had her cat with her. I offered her the extra room at my condo, provided our cats got along. Which they do.
However, my cat is 21 years old. He's a wee bit cranky. He is blind in one eye. He is losing his hearing. And, he's diabetic and has arthritis. He's part siamese, so he's always been very vocal, but he talks more the older he gets. I understand it is annoying, as he annoys the heck out of me, too sometimes. But some of the things she says and does is way out of line. I was prompted to post this just as she was telling his to shut the f* up and shooing him out of the kitchen with her foot. I've also seen her push him out of the way on other occasions or abruptly throw him off the counter or table (she allows her cat to do both, as do I, because I'll admit, my cat makes the rules). I've asked her not to do this, because of his arthritis, and if she wants him down, please just set him on the floor. Which she doesn't seem to do.
My cat is important to me. And while I know he can be a pain in the ass, I have different solutions for dealing with him in his old age, which I've shared with my roommate. I've had him since i was 7 years old and I'm seriously considering asking her to leave over this. We have an informal lease that states it can be ended at any time, for any reason, provided at least a months notice is given.
Her boyfriend has less than a month before he thinks he will finish the hike. He is planning on staying with his mom when he does and saving up some money. She was planning on staying here, until they both get some money together and can get a place together again. I don't need a roommate, I took her in because she needed a place to go that would allow her to have a cat.
So, I guess I want to know if anyone has any kind of experience with this. I won't lie...having the extra money is nice and I don't want to ruin the friendship over this. I don't really need the money, but preserving the friendship is important. Especially since we've lived together without any other problems. But, I have had this cat for a long time and his health and happiness is important to me. Any advice on what I can say to her to her without sounding like a bitch?
for your old kitty
I completely understand not wanting to ruin a friendship, but VP is right, she's being very disrespectful, especially given your favour in taking her in.
She just looked away sadly. 
*wantstosnuggle*
at the meowing cat video. Makes my cat seem quiet. 
