Hallucination
Refugee
O.k. so here's the thing. I'm 27 years old and without sounding like a cocky ass I realise that I'm a fairly decent looking guy. I do get hit on alot, my friends call me beautiful all the time(even my guy freinds) so it confuses them as much as it does me to know that at 27 years old I am a virgin. Now here's the weird part. I have no explanation for it. I'm not affraid of it, I'm not holding out for marriage, and it's not a religious thing for me. It's simply somthing that has never happened. I have no answer for it, and that's part of the problem. I'm not ashamed of it but the truth is I wish I wasn't. It would make things easier. Now fixing this problem should be easy. Just go out and get it done but I'm not like that. And it's not that I'm against one night stands(if it were the right time and person sure) but I guess I'm extremely picky. Quality over quantity. Now the last two times I've had girlfreinds I've had to go through the process of telling them I'm a virgin. I call this process "dropping the V-Bomb". It really sucks. I tell them because I think it's good to be honest and up front. They always ask "why?" When I explain to them that there is no real reason for it it confuses them even more and I don't blame them. I mean I struggle to answer the question. Partly because I don't know why and partly becasue I don't know what they want to hear. Anyways the last two times I dropped a V-Bomb it ended the relationships extremely fast. I don't know why. Though I do have ideas why Far too often I get people(freinds) telling me how much they respect the fact that I am a virgin. Alot of my female friends say they think it'd be cool to date a guy who still had his V-card. I don't buy this. For guys it's different. I'd love to date a virgin(we'd be on the same level) but for girls even those who are still virgins I think they tend to want a guy who's more experienced. I think knowing that they would be "the first" puts unwanted pressure on them. Anyways I know that it's not a thing I look forward to. The process of telling. I look forward to the process of doing obviously but already I'm extremely nervous about dropping the V-Bomb on this new girl I've met assumeing it would get to that point. And the whole "if they don't accept you for who you are than they aren't worth it" statement doesn't really hold up because the last two girls I dated were great girls but I think the whole thing made them uncomfortable. I guess I'm not really looking for advice but rather opinions and comments. Female perspectives would be fantastic.
Even on the internet that was hard to talk about. Like I said I'm not ashamed of it but it's never somthing you want to shout from the roof tops.
Even on the internet that was hard to talk about. Like I said I'm not ashamed of it but it's never somthing you want to shout from the roof tops.
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