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ok, about a year ago my best friend screwed me over really badly, like horribly horribly so.
we lived together which just made the whole drawn our collapse of our relationship even worse and it stayed that way for about 6 months.
He did me some pretty severe damage and i was a total mess at the time and for a good while afterwards. its something i'm still trying desperately hard to get over because no one ever in my entire life hurt me as bad as this one guy did - one of lifes little cruel ironies is that the people you care for the most are the ones who can hurt you the most.
Anyway, i haven't seen or heard from him since he moved out about 6 months ago - i've since moved myself - but then i got a text message from him on my birthday a few weeks ago.
I haven't responded and wasn't going to bother to go there again but i'm beginning to wonder if I should?
I was talking today to someone and, as often happens, i bought up some story about "my housemate and i used to" or "one time Al and I" etc etc etc.
The thing is, i miss what we had soooooo badly.
When we were friends we had so much fun together and I've got so many really good memories - i really loved that guy. So I'm starting to wonder, if he's tried to contact me again, whether i should maybe try to reconcile all this and start talking again.
But then i wonder, considering how badly this guy hurt me, why would i want to open myself back up to that again, would that be foolish? I mean, is it a lost cause to try get on with him again because am I ever really gonna get over what he did, or am i just holding a grudge which is stupid?
Part of me wishes things could go back to how they were, but at the same time that thought is overshadowed by the memory of how much he hurt me.
so do i forget the message, ignore it possibly never see or hear from him again ruining any chances i have of maybe getting the friendship back, or do i call back, open the communication again and expose myself to what could potentially be a great relationship or a destructive and harmful one?
which is more stupid, to give it a second chance and get fcked over again, or not and miss out on what was and could again be an incredible friendship.
we lived together which just made the whole drawn our collapse of our relationship even worse and it stayed that way for about 6 months.
He did me some pretty severe damage and i was a total mess at the time and for a good while afterwards. its something i'm still trying desperately hard to get over because no one ever in my entire life hurt me as bad as this one guy did - one of lifes little cruel ironies is that the people you care for the most are the ones who can hurt you the most.
Anyway, i haven't seen or heard from him since he moved out about 6 months ago - i've since moved myself - but then i got a text message from him on my birthday a few weeks ago.
I haven't responded and wasn't going to bother to go there again but i'm beginning to wonder if I should?
I was talking today to someone and, as often happens, i bought up some story about "my housemate and i used to" or "one time Al and I" etc etc etc.
The thing is, i miss what we had soooooo badly.
When we were friends we had so much fun together and I've got so many really good memories - i really loved that guy. So I'm starting to wonder, if he's tried to contact me again, whether i should maybe try to reconcile all this and start talking again.
But then i wonder, considering how badly this guy hurt me, why would i want to open myself back up to that again, would that be foolish? I mean, is it a lost cause to try get on with him again because am I ever really gonna get over what he did, or am i just holding a grudge which is stupid?
Part of me wishes things could go back to how they were, but at the same time that thought is overshadowed by the memory of how much he hurt me.
so do i forget the message, ignore it possibly never see or hear from him again ruining any chances i have of maybe getting the friendship back, or do i call back, open the communication again and expose myself to what could potentially be a great relationship or a destructive and harmful one?
which is more stupid, to give it a second chance and get fcked over again, or not and miss out on what was and could again be an incredible friendship.