Kind of long, please bear with me...
1988 - First grade: I met my future best friend and another boy in class that I despised. He was mean and picked on me, typical elementary school stuff.
Okay, now I can skip a lot of years and go to...
2000 - Senior year of high school: While walking to my locker, I'm shocked to see my best friend and that boy I've disliked for so many years holding hands. Seemingly overnight, they became a couple. Yikes. My little high school world crashes down.
2003: I'm the maid of honor in their wedding. I'm beyond crushed that they are getting married, but I wanted to stand by my best friend.
2005: She files for divorce. He takes my cell phone number from her phone and calls me up, crying, begging me to talk to her so that they will get back together. I tell him flat out that I don't know why he would expect me to help. I never liked him. He was always mean to me. I didn't feel he treated her well. He threatened to kill himself. We continued talking, but I stood by what I had said.
Ever since then, he's been calling me. He blocks his number so I don't see him on my caller ID before answering. Sometimes, he will go months without calling, but then it starts back up again. Sometimes, all he will do is just breathe into the phone. Other times, he will call me a bitch, or tell me to kill myself. He just called me earlier this morning and said, "Consider suicide before I get to you."
Unless he's moved from our hometown (doubtful), he lives about 8 hours from me. My best friend (well, ex-best friend now...) had gotten a restraining order against him, so he turned all of the attention on me. People have said I should get a restraining order as well, but I have no information on him, and when he calls he blocks his number. I know it's him though.
I've resisted changing my phone number because:
1. I've had this number since my dad and I moved downstate almost 7 years ago. I don't have a land line, so this is my main number for everything.
2. I didn't want to give him the satisfaction of doing stuff that would drive me to make a change like that.
Now I'm also afraid that if I change my number, which is his only way to harrass me, that he will get mad and will come looking for me.
Ernie always says that I should just hang up and not let it bother me because all he wants is a reaction out of me. But this last call scared me to the point of crying, and I'm still sitting just feeling shaken. I'm not sure what to do or if anything can even be done. Because of the blocked calls, I don't have any concrete proof, but I know it's him.
1988 - First grade: I met my future best friend and another boy in class that I despised. He was mean and picked on me, typical elementary school stuff.
Okay, now I can skip a lot of years and go to...
2000 - Senior year of high school: While walking to my locker, I'm shocked to see my best friend and that boy I've disliked for so many years holding hands. Seemingly overnight, they became a couple. Yikes. My little high school world crashes down.
2003: I'm the maid of honor in their wedding. I'm beyond crushed that they are getting married, but I wanted to stand by my best friend.
2005: She files for divorce. He takes my cell phone number from her phone and calls me up, crying, begging me to talk to her so that they will get back together. I tell him flat out that I don't know why he would expect me to help. I never liked him. He was always mean to me. I didn't feel he treated her well. He threatened to kill himself. We continued talking, but I stood by what I had said.
Ever since then, he's been calling me. He blocks his number so I don't see him on my caller ID before answering. Sometimes, he will go months without calling, but then it starts back up again. Sometimes, all he will do is just breathe into the phone. Other times, he will call me a bitch, or tell me to kill myself. He just called me earlier this morning and said, "Consider suicide before I get to you."
Unless he's moved from our hometown (doubtful), he lives about 8 hours from me. My best friend (well, ex-best friend now...) had gotten a restraining order against him, so he turned all of the attention on me. People have said I should get a restraining order as well, but I have no information on him, and when he calls he blocks his number. I know it's him though.
I've resisted changing my phone number because:
1. I've had this number since my dad and I moved downstate almost 7 years ago. I don't have a land line, so this is my main number for everything.
2. I didn't want to give him the satisfaction of doing stuff that would drive me to make a change like that.
Now I'm also afraid that if I change my number, which is his only way to harrass me, that he will get mad and will come looking for me.
Ernie always says that I should just hang up and not let it bother me because all he wants is a reaction out of me. But this last call scared me to the point of crying, and I'm still sitting just feeling shaken. I'm not sure what to do or if anything can even be done. Because of the blocked calls, I don't have any concrete proof, but I know it's him.
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i'm sorry to hear about this. above all else, make sure you put your safety first. i would definitely go to the police.
At least now she will know to not talk to him or anything. It scares me that he might start bothering her, since I'm so much farther away. I mean, I don't want her to worry, but I just want her to be aware.
