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Do you consider self-contol, no matter what gender or orientation, to be a virtue?
Aren't you the one that argues guys can't keep it in their pants?
Do you consider self-contol, no matter what gender or orientation, to be a virtue?
Aren't you the one that argues guys can't keep it in their pants?
Survey finds more straight women barebacking than gay men
By Staff Writer, PinkNews.co.uk • April 23, 2010 - 16:47
A survey has found that heterosexual women are less likely to use condoms for anal sex than gay men.
The research, carried out by the New York City Department of Health, found that only 23 per cent of women required their male partners to use condoms during anal sex, compared with 61 per cent of gay or bisexual men.
According to the department, an estimated 100,000 New York City women have anal sex every year.
Women who did not use condoms were also far less likely to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
While 63 per cent of those who use always condoms get tested regularly, on 35 per cent of those who bareback do.
Younger women were found to be the most likely to unprotected anal sex, with 11 per cent of those aged 18 to 24 stating that they did, compared to two per cent of women aged between 45 and 62.
Anal membranes are easily damaged during sex, facilitating the spread of infection. Past studies suggest that anal exposure to HIV poses 30 times more risk than vaginal exposure.
“Tens of thousands of New Yorkers are engaging in sexual behaviour that is especially risky,” said Dr. Thomas Farley, New York City Health Commissioner.
“Many people are aware of the risk of HIV when men have sex with other men, but this report shows that a large number of women also are putting themselves at high risk through unprotected anal sex.
"For both men and women, the overall message is clear: Never engage in unprotected anal sex. Use a condom every time.”
Survey finds more straightwomencouples barebacking than gay men.
well, you know, boys will be boys ... it's the girls who've got to keep them in line and make responsible, virtuous choices. the poor straight lads can't help themselves.
barebacking = sex with no condom.
linking anonymous sex to the liberation from traditional gender roles is rather faulty
Your beef is with the article, dude. Not me.
As to the rest of your post, I will re-quote AliEnvy, who said it better.
"Hedonism isn't empowering and it isn't sexy. Female chauvinist pigs are still chauvinist pigs. Careless disregard/disrespect for oneself and others is nasty no matter which gender displays it. "
Of course, since men have traditionally been the ones to play, the question is whether feminism has merely become "let's do things the way men do."
Which, in the case of sex with anonymous strangers, feels like a race to the bottom.
barebacking = anal sex with no condom (corrected?)
I just meant that women are not alone in not using condoms, and I know it is the person using his penis that really needs to do the right thing.
they are also the one least likely to want to, for selfish (more pleasure) reasons.
Exactly; that newspaper knew an article about "hedonistic" girls would be the best way to get hands wringing and maxims spouting, and we're all dutifully playing right along. When people in general (and parents in particular) proclaim that such behavior is unhealthy, wrong, or questionable regardless of which gender engages in it--and of course, most people who proclaim such generally do--all too often it's just lip service, a hypothetical evenhandedness not reflected in their actions (whose transgressions evoke the most anxiety, the most emphatic judgment, and the most urgent corrective response?). These contradictions do not go unnoticed by girls, and among other consequences can provoke exactly the sort of reactive reckless behavior they most mean to control. Even for the young woman who's mature enough to attain full ownership of and responsibility for her own values, choices, and actions concerning sexuality despite the mixed messages, the resulting sense of alienation and distrust can be destructive in other ways. That's why the double standard is an important feminist issue, not because "liberation" consists of imitating whatever men stereotypically do--not really possible anyhow, in the absence of a masculine self-concept.hedonism feels much more unsettling when it's done by women rather than men, which does speak precisely to double standards.
and i pointed out that hedonism feels much more unsettling when it's done by women rather than men, which does speak precisely to double standards.
Exactly; that newspaper knew an article about "hedonistic" girls would be the best way to get hands wringing and maxims spouting, and we're all dutifully playing right along.
what we want is healthy sexuality, and that comes in many forms, not formulas.
The only impediment in their desire to “run” their sex lives was the unfortunate fact that many of the men they met wanted something more. “Men always go soppy on me,” Ruby said.
Bella agreed: “I met this guy in a pub the other night. We had sex once and ... it’s pathetic. We’re lying there ... and he says, ‘Are you going to sleep with other people?’ I thought: who are you; why are you asking me this? Obviously I’m having sex with other people. He decided he loved me; he was texting me and phoning me for days. After having sex once! What’s that about?”
Wasn’t it possible he might have felt a real connection? The girls looked at me, shaking their heads — that isn’t how sex works.
“You don’t get so heavy with someone after one night,” said Ruby.
“I’m much more attracted to the guys who don’t really give a shit,” said Anna.
“God, yeah, there’s nothing attractive about a guy who gets all emotional on you,” said Bella.
Are you being sarcastic?
So let's discuss an article about male hedonism. Yolland's point is well-taken; it is less likely for men to be criticized for irresponsible or objectifying sexual activity.
That doesn't mean that such activity shouldn't be criticized, however.
however, i'd ask you this: do you think it's possible that some people enjoy and feel good about promiscuous sex? that this, for them, is healthy sexuality? that they're not interested in one monogamous partner for life? that the bonds of monogamy are impossible for them to live under?
People can do what they like. At the same time, we can't forget that promiscuity has led directly to huge outbreaks of AIDS and other STDs, not just in this country, but throughout the world, particularly in Africa. Not to mention the emotional cost that comes from promiscuity (a friend of mine nearly got divorced last year because his wife had an affair with his best friend).
And if you spend time talking to or counseling sex addicts (as I do in my copious amounts of free time -- men, incidentally), you'll find that many people who are driven by promiscuous desires aren't necessarily so by choice.
I may be mistaken in this, but I believe that rates for sexual addiction run much higher in men (it's something like an 80/20 split, I believe). If that's true, the promiscuity that's been touted as a staple of male sexuality -- sex without consequences, and the "freedom" that comes with it -- may in fact be nothing more than an expression of profound sexual dysfunction.
At the same time, we can't forget that promiscuity has led directly to huge outbreaks of AIDS and other STDs, not just in this country, but throughout the world, particularly in Africa.
Do you really think promiscuity is the issue in Africa? Not rape, or poor sex education?
and it sounds like your friends are guilty of cheating, not of being promiscuous. you've conflated two very different things there.
a world where slut applies to both genders.
would we want a world where slut is a meaningless term.
or,
a world where slut applies to both genders.
i wish someone would apply the word slut to me
Do you really think promiscuity is the issue in Africa? Not rape, or poor sex education?
would we want a world where slut is a meaningless term.
a world where slut applies to both genders.