Bono Saint, I'm taking a class right now on 20th century American masculinity. It's fascinating, and hearing how the young men's speech reveals thoughts about essentialism and gender roles is most fascinating of all. It's a great subject but I don't think it could be done justice in a forum like this.
How could it not do justice here in FYM? I don't understand why you think like this.
I see nothing wrong with treating both boys and girls with respect. Turning the tables does not sound like a rational, wise way to solve problems. I think it is highly possible to teach boys that girls are equal to them while still allowing them to be boys - high energy and all.