Party Boy
Refugee
FYI, Roy Keane is a soccer player who left Manchester Utd a few weeks ago - (refers to joke at bottom).
I dont think you can blame the guy in question in any way other than skipping a lunch date. We have all had to do it at some point where you have promied lunch/dinner etc with someone and for whatever reason, have had to cancel. Probably the guy in question has absolutely no idea how important this lunch was to you. You cannot blame him or the whole of mankind for this.
From what you have written in all the threads, there seems to be little this guy has done to lead you on or give you the impression that there was something there that could blossom into some sort of relationship. Blokes and girls flirt all the time esp. in the workplace. Maybe 1 out of 20 of these might actually lead to some sort of relationship but the vast majority of these don't.
You have been very honest in what you have written about how you feel about this guy, (i dont think I could be that honest!) but to me its been based on something you wanted to happen or how you interpreted things - i.e. if he talked to me in the photocopy room today, then it must mean he fancies me. Guys don't think like that. If he fancied you, it would have been obvious - more than just flirting. He would not have missed lunch (no matter how busy he was) and he would certainly have not ignored your email.
What exactly do you want this guy to say to you? Do you want to know if he fancies you or not? What then? If actions speak louder than words, he has already told you this. If he does know that you fancy him, I suspect he just hopes whatever feelings you have for him will disappear and he can get back to the sort of relationship you had in the past.
Anyway, see below for how blokes really think!
WOMAN'S DIARY:
Friday 18th November 2005
Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went
shopping
in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so
thought it
might be that.
The bar was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere
quieter
to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go
somewhere nice to eat.
All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed and
didn't
seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying.
I just knew that something was wrong.
He dropped me back home and I wondered if he was going to come in; he
hesitated but followed. I asked him again if there was something the
matter
but he just half shook his head and turned the television on.
After about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed.
I put
my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply.
He just gave a sigh and a sad sort of smile. He didn't follow me up
but
later he did, and I was surprised when we made love. He still seemed
distant
and a bit cold, and started to think that he was going to leave me and
that
he had found someone else. I cried myself to sleep.
MAN'S DIARY:
Friday 18th November 2005
Keane Leaves United. Gutted. Got a shag though .
I dont think you can blame the guy in question in any way other than skipping a lunch date. We have all had to do it at some point where you have promied lunch/dinner etc with someone and for whatever reason, have had to cancel. Probably the guy in question has absolutely no idea how important this lunch was to you. You cannot blame him or the whole of mankind for this.
From what you have written in all the threads, there seems to be little this guy has done to lead you on or give you the impression that there was something there that could blossom into some sort of relationship. Blokes and girls flirt all the time esp. in the workplace. Maybe 1 out of 20 of these might actually lead to some sort of relationship but the vast majority of these don't.
You have been very honest in what you have written about how you feel about this guy, (i dont think I could be that honest!) but to me its been based on something you wanted to happen or how you interpreted things - i.e. if he talked to me in the photocopy room today, then it must mean he fancies me. Guys don't think like that. If he fancied you, it would have been obvious - more than just flirting. He would not have missed lunch (no matter how busy he was) and he would certainly have not ignored your email.
What exactly do you want this guy to say to you? Do you want to know if he fancies you or not? What then? If actions speak louder than words, he has already told you this. If he does know that you fancy him, I suspect he just hopes whatever feelings you have for him will disappear and he can get back to the sort of relationship you had in the past.
Anyway, see below for how blokes really think!
WOMAN'S DIARY:
Friday 18th November 2005
Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went
shopping
in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so
thought it
might be that.
The bar was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere
quieter
to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go
somewhere nice to eat.
All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed and
didn't
seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying.
I just knew that something was wrong.
He dropped me back home and I wondered if he was going to come in; he
hesitated but followed. I asked him again if there was something the
matter
but he just half shook his head and turned the television on.
After about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed.
I put
my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply.
He just gave a sigh and a sad sort of smile. He didn't follow me up
but
later he did, and I was surprised when we made love. He still seemed
distant
and a bit cold, and started to think that he was going to leave me and
that
he had found someone else. I cried myself to sleep.
MAN'S DIARY:
Friday 18th November 2005
Keane Leaves United. Gutted. Got a shag though .