Irvine511
Blue Crack Supplier
seriously. anything. i'll be as non-political as i possibly can be.
Angela Harlem said:
ok my question...is it true that you're just like everyone else?????
Angela Harlem said:I need to clarify I wasn't being serious. Gender makes no difference to me. And that's all that I reckon seperates groups in terms of sexuality. As it stands for anyone, very few people statistically will ever be attracted to the same person I, or you, are and gender is irrelevent. You like people. I like people. And we all pee and sleep and eat.
Sorry for sidetracking your thread lol
TheBrush said:which do you prefer, gay, homoerotic, or vaginally-challengened?
boxers or briefs?
coke or pepsi?
MCDs or BK?
yankees or mets?
and do you believe a tomato is a fruit or a vegatable?
BonoVoxSupastar said:Is it true that if you love someone of the same sex and want to marry them that the foundation of which the institution of marriage and the moral ground for this country will crumble? Will we all go to hell?
U2democrat said:Does it make you happy to know that my dad, my sister, and my brother in law are all mainstream ministers who do not believe that gays go to hell?
Angela Harlem said:Oh! I do have a serious question. Well, 2 actually.
I dont know if this background is entirely necessary, but this is my question: Was the partner of him now heterosexual? They remained in the relationship after she became a he and so how is sexuality affected by this kind of thing? Mark couldn't answer this and I dont know if anyone can, not that it really matters, but I am curious as to opinions.
My second question lo. When I left this company, we all went to the pub after a farewell dinner and all got on the turps. About halfway through the evening Mark made a comment about a guy standing at the bar. I asked him with a laugh how on earth he could tell the other guy was gay. Mark replied that he could spot one a mile off and had never known himself to be wrong. How on earth could he do that? I can't tell shit about people lol, so it was kinda interesting that he had what he called his 'gaydar'
So yeah...they're the questions. Any ideas?
BonoVoxSupastar said:I throw off gay men all the time. I've been labeled as a metrosexual...
LyricalDrug said:Bono or Edge?
Irvine511 said:
take it as a compliment.
and i bet the girls love it.
macphisto23 said:Im curious as to know how and when you started having feelings for guys? There is so much controversy wether people are born with these feelings, or they come about later in ones life for uncertain reasons. ( I have heard that if you start having a fascination with sex at a very young age, or pornography at a young age can do this). I hope my question doesnt offend anyone.
Irvine511 said:
probably the same time as most people start having feelings for the opposite gender. 6th or 7th grade for me.
before that, i do distinctly feeling different from the other boys in my elementary school. i never particularly liked sports, for example, nor was i interested in some very typical boy things -- cars, for example. i did love music and movies, so that was how i tended to make friends. i remember feeling slightly apart from everyone, especially at recess. playing soccer didn't much interest me, but i didn't want to play on the bars with the girls either. i usually solved this problem by "playing pretend" if it was possible, reading if that wasn't possible, though by the time 5th grade rolled around i was fairly certain that whatever it was i prefered to be doing (not soccer), wasn't what was expected of me. i was being a sissy. so i forced myself to play soccer. but by this time, i found swimming -- an individual sport, no physical contact -- and that consumed my life through college.
i do remember pre-sexual crushes on other boys that i never felt for girls. this was the beginning of a unique kind of pain that all gay people feel: a longing based on a structural lack of reciprocity. you never mention this. you know that something is up, that you crave a different kind of intimacy with your peers that is different than the typical friendships that develop between heterosexual members of the same gender. i spent lots of time psychoanalyzing this: i was a swimmer, and surrounded by nearly nude male bodies, so that's what was wrong; it would all go away once i finally had sex with a girl; once i got out of my suburban town i'd finally find girls who appealed to me; etc. i've stopped swimming, had sex with a woman, and now live in a city. still like male bodies.
it isn't as natural as sneezing, or eating, as some claim. for me, it was a secondary part of my psychological and emotional make up in that confusing part of the brain. my first explicit sexual experiences -- the "heavy petting" at 14 or so -- was with girls, but it was pantomime, doing what i thought it was is hould be doing. i have always enjoyed the company of women, sometimes preferred it to men especially when i was younger; but i have never longed for a woman in the way that i have longed for a man, craving a physical embrace and emotional solidarity. this starts to consume you, probably more so than heteros because you have to suppress it, so it moves from desire to obsession. you're constantly checking yourself, trying to see if you're outgrowing it. i remember trying SO HARD to masturbate to pictures of naked women (pun sort of intended). i couldn't do it without significant effort.
i also think, that had i grown up in a different time, i would have tried even harder to be straight. to suppress and repress. to do what was expected of me (i do what is expected of me, and more, in all other areas of my life ... i've always been a rather typical overachiever). but what made me eventually "come out" was two things:
1. finding myself in the midst of a real relationship with a man, and not wanting to keep him secret from my friends
2. realizing that the cruelest thing would be to continue to lie, especially when combined with trying to date a woman.
macphisto23 said:do you think that if you really were determined that you could overcome being homosexual? It sounds like its more phsycological than anything, so is it possible to overcome it?
cujo said:
Overcome has such a negative connotation in this instance. Wish you had used a different word, even though you didn't mean anything by it.