I'm long past the age where I give a damn about any of that. But I was 22 once like that woman. She liked who she thought he was and who she projected he was. Been there, done that.
First of all, it should NOT be incumbent upon women to exercise "agency" moreso than it should be incumbent upon the man not to be, you know, an asshole.
Second, I had assumed that we had moved past the point where we were victim blaming women for not walking away from bad relationships, abuse, dependency, etc, when we all should know that these are complicated psychological matters. If only it was that easy.
Third, as MrsS astutely put, women are conditioned socially to behave a certain way and to pursue men a certain way and to feel proud at being winked at by particular sorts of men and so on. I'm 38-years-old and I wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes with his inane bullshit and the whole "if I pour you another glass of wine now does that count as a second date" would have earned him a giant but I cannot tell you at all with any sort of certainty that 20 years ago that would have been the case.
Rather than yelling about her not exercising her agency, how about saying that maybe when a woman says "I don't want to have sex with you yet/this time", you saying, ok, that's fair, I understand instead of refusing that as acceptable and plying her with alcohol instead. No it's not a crime, but why are we putting it all on her here without pointing out that his reaction is pretty gross for an adult in his 30s as Vlad pointed out?