Maybe I was wrong, but your original response to me appeared to convey a sense of offense to my post, and I may have responded in a manner I felt was in kind. My mind has rather been on the edge tonight, and if I have offended you in anyway with either post, I apologize. I have no beef with you.indra said:
Yes sir! How dare I respond to anything. :madspot:
whenhiphopdrovethebigcars said:
Maybe it was ok to wait for you, see? Maybe it was all developing very naturally and that´s exactly what you needed. I understand though that in the U.S. life must be different, because while you´re in college you´re staying at the campus. We don´t..
ILuvLarryMullen said:Maybe I am too cynical, but I don't see a 36 year old man looking to be friends with a 19 year old girl. I could be wrong and he could be a real great guy, but I guess what I'm saying is just be careful.
the soul waits said:Why would you get yelled at?
u2bonogirl said:Laura, just so you know....it's almost impossible to 'just be friends' Especially with somebody who you share so many interests with and are attracted to.
In the back of your minds there will always be a tension and a what-if.
u2bonogirl said:When you've already opened the door to emotional intimacy it's hard to shut it when you're still acting as friends.
But that's just my take on it.
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Being friendly is all fine, but sharing a close bond just seems like a bad idea. Why put yourself in situations that, given the right circumstances (fight with significant other/ moment of weakness) could lead to big mistakes?
u2bonogirl said:I love the short hair sig
u2bonogirl said:Being friendly is all fine, but sharing a close bond just seems like a bad idea. Why put yourself in situations that, given the right circumstances (fight with significant other/ moment of weakness) could lead to big mistakes?
anitram said:
If I'm friends with a person, there is a reason I'm not sleeping with them - I am not attracted to them sexually nor will I ever be.
Why is there an assumption that this is a powderkeg ready to explode?
It seems a bit paranoid to me to see all close bonds as potential sexual relationships at some point. It just isn't true at all.
anitram said:
If I'm friends with a person, there is a reason I'm not sleeping with them - I am not attracted to them sexually nor will I ever be.
Why is there an assumption that this is a powderkeg ready to explode?
It seems a bit paranoid to me to see all close bonds as potential sexual relationships at some point. It just isn't true at all.
anitram said:
If I'm friends with a person, there is a reason I'm not sleeping with them - I am not attracted to them sexually nor will I ever be.
Why is there an assumption that this is a powderkeg ready to explode?
It seems a bit paranoid to me to see all close bonds as potential sexual relationships at some point. It just isn't true at all.
u2bonogirl said:Most of my friends used to be guys too. I just get along with them better. And I wasn't attracted to most of them either, but after a while I realized that they all wanted in my pants It was a little disturbing
I'm saying that especially in marriage it isn't fair to the other partner to share the same bond with somemone of the opposite sex that you should be sharing with your spouse.
u2bonogirl said:
And I really do believe that when you are serious about being with someone it is a bad idea to spend one on one close personal time with someone of the opposite sex.
digsy said:
oh yeah, one last thing
could you not integrate those friendships into your marriage? i mean it wouldn't have to be one on one time if you weren't comfortable with that.
my sisters male friends all know her husband very well now and she knows his female friends so they'll mix as a group and all be friendly with each other. the friendships wouldn't have to be separate to your relationship, theres no real reason why they can't mix.
Achtung_Bebe said:
I also agree that it's near impossible to be strictly platonic friends, but should the fact that they dated and failed ease my mind at all? I just want to reach a point where I don't feel intimidated by his female friendships.