stop telling yourself you are one.
if you continue to do so, then you will be for the rest of your life.
we all have problems, some of us go through a lot of heart ache and have terrible things happen to us that could never be imagined, but you have to make the decision to either not let it swallow you whole and change your outlook on life, breathe in and out and live each day as it comes, or..
you can just give in and lay down and die.
its your life, your decision. make the one that is going to make you happy. sure, telling yourself that everything will be ok is easy and its not going to fix things immediately, but its a start.
i truly believe that people whom are happy and have things going right for them are ones who believe they can be and want it to happen.
our mind is our biggest force. use it to help yourself.
and i shall start taking my own advice someday too! lol