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ONE love, blood, life
My parents have been divorced since I was 11. Both have remarried, and from the time of the divorce until I was about 17, I lived with my mom. After that, I mostly lived with my dad (just for the sake of convenience--I get along pretty well with both my parents).
Here's the problem: I have to have some surgery this summer, and the surgery isn't covered by my medical insurance. It's the culmination of a few other surgeries in the past several years, all stemming from an accident I had many years ago (actually, right after my parents split). Once I have this surgery, all the problems will (finally!) be corrected. Of course, the bill for this most recent bout of surgery will probably be around two to three thousand dollars. My parents are going to pay for it, but my dad has a much better job than my mom and has a lot more money.
Apparently my parents' divorce agreement wasn't really fair to my mom, at least to hear her tell it, and whenever major expenses come up for me or my siblings, my mom gets really steamed that she and my dad (I guess) still share things 50-50. Then she talks to me and bitches about my father and how unfair it is and how "there are things I should know."
Now all of this might be true, but don't you think my mom should be talking to my dad--or an attorney--about this? I do know that I live with my dad entirely rent-free, for example, and that while he's a little weird about money (as many dads seem to be), he's also never said no to me if I really needed it for something important. I love both my parents equally and I *hate* when my mom tries to put me in the middle like this.
Here's the problem: I have to have some surgery this summer, and the surgery isn't covered by my medical insurance. It's the culmination of a few other surgeries in the past several years, all stemming from an accident I had many years ago (actually, right after my parents split). Once I have this surgery, all the problems will (finally!) be corrected. Of course, the bill for this most recent bout of surgery will probably be around two to three thousand dollars. My parents are going to pay for it, but my dad has a much better job than my mom and has a lot more money.
Apparently my parents' divorce agreement wasn't really fair to my mom, at least to hear her tell it, and whenever major expenses come up for me or my siblings, my mom gets really steamed that she and my dad (I guess) still share things 50-50. Then she talks to me and bitches about my father and how unfair it is and how "there are things I should know."
Now all of this might be true, but don't you think my mom should be talking to my dad--or an attorney--about this? I do know that I live with my dad entirely rent-free, for example, and that while he's a little weird about money (as many dads seem to be), he's also never said no to me if I really needed it for something important. I love both my parents equally and I *hate* when my mom tries to put me in the middle like this.
IMO opinion, it really has very little to do with money...its more about her resentment over the divorce. 
