Aardvark747
Blue Crack Addict
My best mate has a problem.
He is 22 years old and has been with his gf for 4 yrs now, they live together and have 1 child. Sounds all well and good so far I know, however, for about the past 2 years he really hasnt enjoyed the relationship at all. He told her a while back that he wanted to leave her, as she wasnt being very nice to him a lot of the time and she would never want to go out and get a job. She was just happy to sit at home and rely on him.
Once she realised that he was being serious, she decided to take action, and she stopped taking her pill so as to try and get herself pregnant, in order to 'keep' him. It worked, and after 2 months of knowing about being pregnant, she decided to let him know(!)
I remember talking to him at the time, and he was angry about not being told at the start of course, but that he was looking forward to becoming a father, despite the fact that it wasnt planned and she had obviously tried to do this on purpose. He hoped that it may bring the two of them closer together. And for a while, after the birth, I think it did. They always looked happy enough.
After a couple of months tho, we were out somewhere, and he once again unhappy, and telling me that she was treating him like shit, hardly letting him see his friends (even to come over and visit) she was still not bothered about trying to look for some work. Obviously he didnt expect her to have a baby and then go back to work the next day, but now that it is nearly a year since the birth, and money is tight - she still wont see reason.
Anyway, we met the other day and he told me he had some news. I said "She's pregnant again isnt she?". He just nodded. And once again, she has stopped taking he pill, got pregnant, and waited 2 months before telling him.
He is really annoyed now. Money is so tight, that they cannot possibly afford to have another child, but he would never think of an abortion as an option, and I think she knew that.
He is now unsure exactly what to do. Should he up and leave her, but of course still support his child and the one that is on the way. Or should he just continue in the relationship he is in, playing happy families, but when the truth is, he is really unhappy with this girl for the way she has been with him over the last couple of years.
He is 22 years old and has been with his gf for 4 yrs now, they live together and have 1 child. Sounds all well and good so far I know, however, for about the past 2 years he really hasnt enjoyed the relationship at all. He told her a while back that he wanted to leave her, as she wasnt being very nice to him a lot of the time and she would never want to go out and get a job. She was just happy to sit at home and rely on him.
Once she realised that he was being serious, she decided to take action, and she stopped taking her pill so as to try and get herself pregnant, in order to 'keep' him. It worked, and after 2 months of knowing about being pregnant, she decided to let him know(!)
I remember talking to him at the time, and he was angry about not being told at the start of course, but that he was looking forward to becoming a father, despite the fact that it wasnt planned and she had obviously tried to do this on purpose. He hoped that it may bring the two of them closer together. And for a while, after the birth, I think it did. They always looked happy enough.
After a couple of months tho, we were out somewhere, and he once again unhappy, and telling me that she was treating him like shit, hardly letting him see his friends (even to come over and visit) she was still not bothered about trying to look for some work. Obviously he didnt expect her to have a baby and then go back to work the next day, but now that it is nearly a year since the birth, and money is tight - she still wont see reason.
Anyway, we met the other day and he told me he had some news. I said "She's pregnant again isnt she?". He just nodded. And once again, she has stopped taking he pill, got pregnant, and waited 2 months before telling him.
He is really annoyed now. Money is so tight, that they cannot possibly afford to have another child, but he would never think of an abortion as an option, and I think she knew that.
He is now unsure exactly what to do. Should he up and leave her, but of course still support his child and the one that is on the way. Or should he just continue in the relationship he is in, playing happy families, but when the truth is, he is really unhappy with this girl for the way she has been with him over the last couple of years.