Doozer61
Blue Crack Addict
This has been weighing a little heavy on me right now. Actually, since my nephew died a year ago.
It amazes me how sometimes family swoops in and takes over with no regard for the wishes of the person that has passed.
My good friend Susan died on Saturday and her partner of 10 years has not been consulted on ANY plans. Susan's daughter and son are making all the arrangements without regard to Susan's spiritual path or her partner's wishes.
Oh, did I mention that they are homophobic as well. That might be the answer. :sarcasm:
The house they shared was left to Susan from her mother, so the partner has no rights to it and in fact, will be homeless very shortly because the family will not allow her to live there.
This is a lesson, especially for me and Caron to get our stuff in order. And that's not to say I want to sit here and dwell on my death or Caron's. It is just a reminder that we need to be prepared especially since we live in a place that does not recognize our relationship. Hell, I have family members that don't recognize our relationship.
The house we live in was left to Caron by her father. So it is the same situation as Susan. Unless we sell it and buy something together, I have no rights no matter how much money I have put into it.
Also, we both need to make our families aware of how we want things...medical services, etc. And it all has to be in writing and notorized. Sheesh.
It amazes me how sometimes family swoops in and takes over with no regard for the wishes of the person that has passed.
My good friend Susan died on Saturday and her partner of 10 years has not been consulted on ANY plans. Susan's daughter and son are making all the arrangements without regard to Susan's spiritual path or her partner's wishes.
Oh, did I mention that they are homophobic as well. That might be the answer. :sarcasm:
The house they shared was left to Susan from her mother, so the partner has no rights to it and in fact, will be homeless very shortly because the family will not allow her to live there.
This is a lesson, especially for me and Caron to get our stuff in order. And that's not to say I want to sit here and dwell on my death or Caron's. It is just a reminder that we need to be prepared especially since we live in a place that does not recognize our relationship. Hell, I have family members that don't recognize our relationship.
The house we live in was left to Caron by her father. So it is the same situation as Susan. Unless we sell it and buy something together, I have no rights no matter how much money I have put into it.
Also, we both need to make our families aware of how we want things...medical services, etc. And it all has to be in writing and notorized. Sheesh.