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Old 04-04-2006, 09:13 AM   #81
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Vintage Punk you made the most classical logical jump of all...
If I've not put it in that way there should be a reason, shouldn't it?
No, I've not made a logical jump, I've merely restated what you implied when making your statement about "guarantees."

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And the reason is that....I didn't wanna tell you this! I know many gays and lesbians (actually one of my best friend is a lesbian) and I'm very faraway from saying that they're not psychologically ok....
If we're going to get into anecdotal evidence here, I also know gays and lesbians who are just as well adjusted as the most mentally healthy hetero people I know. Conversely, I know of people who were adopted by hetero families whose lives were hellish. In fact, my adult SIL still has scars from when her "loving" hetero adoptive family set her atop a burning stove element, and put cigarettes out on her arms. She didn't exactly have guarantees, did she? However, anecdotal evidence just doesn't cut it, here.

I'd also like to point out here that in a good many cases, any adjustment problems that gays/lesbians have to deal with are a direct result of self-loathing due to the mores and biases imposed upon them by society. It's like a kid being constantly subjected to bullying in the school yard, and then, to add insult to injury, being excluded from play because they're sad, timid, and socially inept.

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I could as well ask you: "hey does Homofamilies automatically guarantee automatic psychological health instead?"...
but I won't do that, I'll try to expalin better my point of view.
Of course not. What we should be looking at is overall trends, and by looking at both sets, I think it can be agreed that *some* hetero singles/couples, and *some* homo singles/couples should not adopt, period. When screening for potential adoptive parents, the same strict criteria should be used for both instances, gender and sexuality aside.


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The whole question question is to be seen from children point of view what happens? Are adult's right of having baby in whatever condition more important than the children one's of having the best environment that we can give him? We should guarantee the committment of looking for the best for him...
Apply that same argument to the large number of heterosexual people who are so ill-equipped to be parents, it's sad. Should we impose automatic sterilization on them? Where are the children's rights, in this case? Does having the proper plumbing for procreation equate to "the best environment" for the child?

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We know that even Heterofamilies can't guarantee "family wellness" so why should we try with things that brings toward the children further psychological and intellectual stress that could keep him from growing the best he can?
Now that's a logical leap, claiming that there will be psychological and intellectual stress on the child of potential homosexual adoptive parents. Study after study from unbiased sources shows this to not be the case. Melon has kindly provided links somewhere in this thread to just a few of them.

I look forward to the day when people will look at science and fact, as opposed to using their own biases and fears to make informed decisions about matters such as this.


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And remember that in the first issue we are not gays or lesbians or hetero, we are all human being, some human being likes people of opposite sex and some don't, and the latter are called gays and lesbians but it's just a matter of what you like, not of what you are...this is very very "western way of life", very materialistic: describe people with what they like. But I believe there are no races here, just the human one. We are all the same. Free your mind.
Excuse me for being cynical, but your message of oneness and unity is laughable to me, considering that you're advocating the exclusion of a segment of population from parenting, based upon the biology of who they love and feel sexual attraction for.
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What does that have to do with the issue we're talking about?
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This thread has been quite active, so I got tempted back in.

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I can't believe I took the time time to read this thread.

It's just not natural
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I just want to say, why is it that someone who has different belife such as arball get treated as an outsider?
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If the person came in and made at least an attempt to make an intelligent argument it would have been different. But they didn't they came in and called the thread a waste and just chalked it up to not being "natural". Why because it didn't fit in their box? You can do better than that.
The purpose of my post was to share where I stand on this issue, not really to elaborate on why. Expressing reasoniing behind what I thought, on the belief that it may lead others to change theirs, was not all on my agenda, so why should I?

I'm normally a person that is open to listening to differing opinions and I am not someone who will be ashamed to change my own standpoint if I believe someone else has made a valid point that I had not previously considered.

But I haven't seen anything here to change my mind, so my view remains unchanged. Even now it seems most people are really of their own firm opinion (if indeed differing to mine).

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Let me put it this way.

What if the same response was put in a thread about interacial couples?
I don't believe this is not natural. Animals have always ventured across the planet and IMO it was enevitable that people of differene races would meet.

But it's great to see important issues openly discussed. I chose not to fully partipate because other things were of a higher priority to me.
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my heart goes out to each and every one of these poor people.

i hope they can find their way out of this abusive world of religiously-based lies and manipulation and into true peace and acceptance of themselves. whatever that might be.

the desperation in these testimonials speaks voumes.

and has nothing to do with gay parenting.

back to the subject.
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i dunno.
there seems to be a lot of evidence in some of those testimonies..and most gay guys i know were quite randy, never being able to maintain a LTR.

soo...i don't think this bodes well for bringing up children..same as a single parent..either straight or gay.

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The purpose of my post was to share where I stand on this issue, not really to elaborate on why. Expressing reasoniing behind what I thought, on the belief that it may lead others to change theirs, was not all on my agenda, so why should I?
But that's the nature of this thread. It's about discussion and debate.

Just like "Democrats suck", "Republicans are evil", or "Christian conservatives are brainwashed" one liners without any reasoning or explanation don't go over so well in here.



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I don't believe this is not natural. Animals have always ventured across the planet and IMO it was enevitable that people of differene races would meet.
Well I'm glad, but that's not the point. But as we're using animals to prove what's natural and what's not, there have been plenty of cases of homosexuality found in animals, but not many of adoption. Does that make adoption unnatural?
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i dunno.
there seems to be a lot of evidence in some of those testimonies..and most gay guys i know were quite randy, never being able to maintain a LTR.

soo...i don't think this bodes well for bringing up children..same as a single parent..either straight or gay.

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I could give you plenty of evidence and testimonies of straight men who have never had a relationship longer than 3 months and they are in their mid 30's and 40's.

But I know you aren't much for looking at true evidence and seeing both sides of the coin.
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i dunno.
there seems to be a lot of evidence in some of those testimonies..and most gay guys i know were quite randy, never being able to maintain a LTR.

soo...i don't think this bodes well for bringing up children..same as a single parent..either straight or gay.

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hmmm ... could it be that the difficulty gay men have in maintaining a LTR (at least in your anecdotal story) possibly be attributed to homophobia and/or lack of gay marriage or at least civil unions? it seems funny that one would use stereotypes to combat gay adoption when you'd simultaneously deny them the very tools one would need to combat such stereotypes.

and what about lesbians?

and what about 50% of straight marriages that end in divorce?

and what about the amount of husbands who cheat on their wives?

etc, etc.
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i think another reason marriage should not be re defined is that gay guys tend to wander/stray much more than straight fellows.


in my 20s..i used to get hit on gay guys all the time...offered money etc..and they would try and sell me on the idea i was gay etc..it was creepy.

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i think another reason marriage should not be re defined is that gay guys tend to wander/stray much more than straight fellows.




You've done extensive research, heh?

You're so full of it.
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in my 20s..i used to get hit on gay guys all the time...offered money etc..and they would try and sell me on the idea i was gay etc..it was creepy.


it must be because you're so hot. and they wanted to recruit you.


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I was recruited..... Oh Yeah! I gots the MOJO!
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is that a Louisville Slugger in your pocket?

Imagine that...me an attempted recruitee twice at my born again christian college....

Great BB reference there my friend....
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in my 20s..i used to get hit on gay guys all the time...offered money etc..and they would try and sell me on the idea i was gay etc..it was creepy.

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So...uh...tell 'em no thanks, you're not interested, and move on?

And of course, let's not forget things such as the numerous examples of sleazy men hitting on women that have occurred over the years.

I dunno. I just know that I hear stories such as the one of Scott Peterson, this Neil Entwistle guy, people like that-and these people had children or were about to have children, too...and think to myself, yep, heterosexual marriages/households are just so devoid of any dangers whatsoever, right?

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i'm in my 20s..i get hit on by straight girls all the time...offered money etc..and they would try and sell me on the idea i was straight etc..it was creepy.
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i think another reason marriage should not be re defined is that gay guys tend to wander/stray much more than straight fellows.
Projecting yourself onto phantom "gay guys," now are you?

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My apologies, diamond. Some gay guys have really bad taste.

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So what's next? Quoting from the "Protocols of Zion" to justify anti-Semitism?

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so ... getting back on the topic.

there's talk about how "every child does best with a mother and a father."

so, to extend this thought, do we prevent single straight women from adopting (like the woman next door from me who just brought Diego back from Guatemala last week)? do we prevent lesbian couples from being artificially inseminated? do we prevent gay men from finding egg doners and surrogate wombs? or does this only apply to adoption, and thus, why are children up for adoption subject to different rules than children who remain with their biological parents?
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