Looks or personality?
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sallycinnamon78
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I don't believe that anyone can be that mindnumbingly shallow - you are kidding right? You must be, because nobody with more than half a brain cell could believe anything so moronic.Windmilllane said:
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Having just looked at your "occupation" in your profile, I'm not really surprised at your comments.
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sallycinnamon78
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MrsSpringsteen said:
I guess we should just rid the world of all people deemed unattractive
Lol, MrsSpringsteen!
Windmilllane said:
That's a brilliant idea.
What about the minor detail that attractiveness is subjective?
UnforgettableLemon
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You know, when I first met Colleen, I was sort of indifferent. She was really shy and we didn't talk. Then we started talking about Shakespeare for a paper we were both working on, and I picked up on how beautiful her eyes are. (Sea Green, shifts from blue to green depending on the light). And she has glasses and red hair. SO I'm like, "yeah, she's kind of cute."
BUT... we didn't start dating until the next summer. But I didn't ask her out because I thought she was beautiful...even though I think she is. I asked her out because she's intelligent (humbles me quite often), honest, and incredibly sweet. And she's got this whole geek thing I can relate to. We're on the same wavelengths quite often.
So I was physically attracted at first, but I started to fall in love with her once I got to know her. I won't even go as far as to say that lust is entirely based on looks... I know that watching her play Legend of Zelda makes me kinda hot.. So yeah, like I said, it's not all looks or all personality. It's both, in different ways at different times.
BUT... we didn't start dating until the next summer. But I didn't ask her out because I thought she was beautiful...even though I think she is. I asked her out because she's intelligent (humbles me quite often), honest, and incredibly sweet. And she's got this whole geek thing I can relate to. We're on the same wavelengths quite often.
So I was physically attracted at first, but I started to fall in love with her once I got to know her. I won't even go as far as to say that lust is entirely based on looks... I know that watching her play Legend of Zelda makes me kinda hot.. So yeah, like I said, it's not all looks or all personality. It's both, in different ways at different times.
sallycinnamon78
New Yorker
Windmilllane said:
Indeed. Well, that solves that mystery!
lauren430
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I won't even talk to a guy unless he has a six pack, a tight ass, and a perfect smile 
elaine2112
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i am guessing that windmilllane is not in a relationship 
indra
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I find that a great personality makes a guy gorgeous, but no amount of pretty skin can make up for a repugnant personality. I am a sucker for a great voice though..... Of course, if that great voice is saying stupid or hateful things, I can get over it real quick. 
The thing is your all almost equate being attractive with being an arsehole thats not fair, personality is actually far more important though imo, although I've often felt I have everything but it's not enough to be the "GREAT GUY" that people need and thats just the way I feel
meh... anyone who says that looks don't matter is full of shit. of course they matter. someone could have the greatest personality on the face of the earth, but if they have 2 teeth, a rats nest hair-do, and they smell like crap... you ain't dating them.
unless you're cujo.
unless you're cujo.
TwoAmericas
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RA-D said:
I guess all British dudes try to look like David Beckham.
Evalicious
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Hahaa!
TwoAmericas
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lauren430 said:I won't even talk to a guy unless he has a six pack, a tight ass, and a perfect smile
Six pack of beer?
MissVelvetDress_75
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lauren430 said:I won't even talk to a guy unless he has a six pack, a tight ass, and a perfect smile
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Party Boy
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I always find that from the looks perspective, sometimes you dont see things for weeks - how a person might smile, cry, look surprised, shocked etc. Lots of human expressions and feelings come out of how someone looks (before they even open their mouth!). I've never found women in the likes of FHM etc good looking in the traditional sense. Sure, they are good to leer at but I would never want one as a girlfriend.
Am happy with the girl next door type - one who is cute, radiates warmth and is not constantly fixated by how they look. In fact, the more t-shirts, combats and less make-up they have, the better!!
Oh, and a few tattoos thrown in for good measure too!!
Am happy with the girl next door type - one who is cute, radiates warmth and is not constantly fixated by how they look. In fact, the more t-shirts, combats and less make-up they have, the better!!
Oh, and a few tattoos thrown in for good measure too!!
Party Boy
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Windmilllane said:
Finally, an honest answer.
Again, I hate when people say it's not about the looks.
Oh well, I give up.
Personality is forever, looks are temporary.. a bit like buying a dog for Christmas.....
I Move in Mysterious Ways
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Well, I'm 0 for 2, so . . .
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ZeroDude said:
Well, the question was looks or personality....
meegannie
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indra said:
Me too.
...and THANK GOD my husband does not try to look like David Beckham
.TwoAmericas
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Looks aren't everything:
They are the ONLY THING:
Check out this article:
Studies show attractive students get more attention and higher evaluations from their teachers, good-looking patients get more personalized care from their doctors, and handsome criminals receive lighter sentences than less attractive convicts. But how much do looks matter at work?
The ugly truth, according to economics professors Daniel Hamermesh of the University of Texas and Jeff Biddle of Michigan State University, is that plain people earn 5 to 10 percent less than people of average looks, who in turn earn 3 to 8 percent less than those deemed good-looking.
These findings concur with other research that shows the penalty for being homely exceeds the premium for beauty and that, across all occupations, the effects are greater for men than women.
A London Guildhall University survey of 11,000 33-year-olds found that unattractive men earned 15 percent less than those deemed attractive, while plain women earned 11 percent less than their prettier counterparts. In their report "Beauty, Productivity and Discrimination: Lawyers', Looks and Lucre," Hamermesh and Biddle found that the probability of a male attorney attaining early partnership directly correlates with how handsome he is.
Size matters, too. A study released last year by two professors at the University of Florida and the University of North Carolina found that tall people earn considerably more money throughout their careers than their shorter coworkers, with each inch adding about $789 a year in pay.
A survey of male graduates of the University of Pittsburgh found that the tallest students' average starting salary was 12 percent higher than their shorter colleagues'. The London Guildhall study showed that overweight women are more likely to be unemployed, and that those who are working earn on average five percent less than their trimmer peers.
According to Dr. Gordon Patzer, who has spent over three decades studying and writing about physical attractiveness, human beings are hard-wired to respond more favorably to attractive people. Even studies of babies show they will look more intently and longer at prettier faces.
"Good-looking men and women are generally judged to be more talented, kind, honest and intelligent than their less attractive counterparts," says Patzer. "Controlled studies show people go out of their way to help attractive people - of the same and opposite sex - because they want to be liked and accepted by good-looking people."
They are the ONLY THING:
Check out this article:
Studies show attractive students get more attention and higher evaluations from their teachers, good-looking patients get more personalized care from their doctors, and handsome criminals receive lighter sentences than less attractive convicts. But how much do looks matter at work?
The ugly truth, according to economics professors Daniel Hamermesh of the University of Texas and Jeff Biddle of Michigan State University, is that plain people earn 5 to 10 percent less than people of average looks, who in turn earn 3 to 8 percent less than those deemed good-looking.
These findings concur with other research that shows the penalty for being homely exceeds the premium for beauty and that, across all occupations, the effects are greater for men than women.
A London Guildhall University survey of 11,000 33-year-olds found that unattractive men earned 15 percent less than those deemed attractive, while plain women earned 11 percent less than their prettier counterparts. In their report "Beauty, Productivity and Discrimination: Lawyers', Looks and Lucre," Hamermesh and Biddle found that the probability of a male attorney attaining early partnership directly correlates with how handsome he is.
Size matters, too. A study released last year by two professors at the University of Florida and the University of North Carolina found that tall people earn considerably more money throughout their careers than their shorter coworkers, with each inch adding about $789 a year in pay.
A survey of male graduates of the University of Pittsburgh found that the tallest students' average starting salary was 12 percent higher than their shorter colleagues'. The London Guildhall study showed that overweight women are more likely to be unemployed, and that those who are working earn on average five percent less than their trimmer peers.
According to Dr. Gordon Patzer, who has spent over three decades studying and writing about physical attractiveness, human beings are hard-wired to respond more favorably to attractive people. Even studies of babies show they will look more intently and longer at prettier faces.
"Good-looking men and women are generally judged to be more talented, kind, honest and intelligent than their less attractive counterparts," says Patzer. "Controlled studies show people go out of their way to help attractive people - of the same and opposite sex - because they want to be liked and accepted by good-looking people."
That study has alot of truth to it. I think we all know this, but sometimes our subjective desires blind us to soceity's biases.
I am comfrontable saying that looks and personality are equally as important. If someone isn't attractive, but very charismatic and fun, they are a good friend, but not a good lover. If someone is cute/hot/beautiful and has the personality of rock, they are nothing more than a symetrical zombie...an inflatible sex doll...a dead corpse. I should add that appearance is subjective and shouldn't mean 'typical' beauty. It's true that when most of us find Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie or Anna Kournikova attractive, it sets up a standard for 'beauty", but what about all the guys and girls we see on a regular basis, who are probably just as cute or handsome as these people, but don't have the image? These are the people that WE are. These are the people that never get swooned over by men and women...yet we're just as unique and soulful as those icons.
I am comfrontable saying that looks and personality are equally as important. If someone isn't attractive, but very charismatic and fun, they are a good friend, but not a good lover. If someone is cute/hot/beautiful and has the personality of rock, they are nothing more than a symetrical zombie...an inflatible sex doll...a dead corpse. I should add that appearance is subjective and shouldn't mean 'typical' beauty. It's true that when most of us find Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie or Anna Kournikova attractive, it sets up a standard for 'beauty", but what about all the guys and girls we see on a regular basis, who are probably just as cute or handsome as these people, but don't have the image? These are the people that WE are. These are the people that never get swooned over by men and women...yet we're just as unique and soulful as those icons.
BrownEyedBoy
Rock n' Roll Doggie
You're probably going to be carefully inserting your foot in your mouth when you meet someone with such a wonderful personality that is so compatible to you it somehow translates into his/her physical appearance.
Yes, there has to be something that sparks that attraction, I'll agree on that, but sometimes knowing someone so much that you get to love them lets you see the best in their physical appearance.
Yes, there has to be something that sparks that attraction, I'll agree on that, but sometimes knowing someone so much that you get to love them lets you see the best in their physical appearance.
RademR
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i always go for looks, but to develop a strong relationship, personality becomes more imortant.
Dalton
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Danospano said:
Agreed.
Thankfully the coolest person I have ever met is also a total knock-out.
Plus she isn't that smart so she said yes when I asked her to marry me.
Thank you Jesus for naivete....
NewYorkGirl2316
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Everyone dreams about the "perfect" man, dark hair, dark eyes, tall, and hansom, etc... and don't get me wrong, when i walk down the streats, and glance at people, your first impression in on looks, 'sigh" but i wouldn't want someone who is all for looks, there's usually not soul in the man. But it really is beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, b/c everyone has a different view of beauty. But the women who are "perect," usually are fake, and spend a ton of money on surgery to keep their looks, and then when they get old, there's always a chance that after 100 sugeries, you can become disfigured, so why change the way you look for others? Just be your self, theres always someone who'll appreciate it. If there's a person who bases EVERYTHING on looks, then he/she is prolly a shallow person with out a personality, or humanistic morals...I mean how can anyone not want a meaningful relationship, someone one loves you for who you are, and everytime is around you, feels like your his sunshine...someone with a shallow mind isn't usually as appreciative to these small time filled moments, i know i don't know what i'd do without my boyfriend, he's a cuttie, but he's got a great personailty, always thinks of me, and surprizes me in the most romantic ways....infact for my birthday a few years back, he's the one that got me tickets for the elevation tour...b/c he knew how much I love U2. He said he was planning on savin up for a new lap top, but said that i ment more to him, and the concert was I all could about, so he gave up someting he wanted for me....now, how can anyone want a relationship souly bases on looks and nothing else? I feel sorry for you if so, you'll never find someone who loves you, and wants to share their life with you, or even kids. Love is the most important thing to us, and how can only one pass that up, b/c they are that shallow minded.
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