indra said:
I must admit I'm surprised at the turn this thread took right from the start. And I'm sorry to say if the very same post came from someone else -- dare I say it? -- one of the "popular kids," you can bet your ass the comments would be much more sympathetic.
Yes, that's what I mean, some people can do something and it's funny, but for others, it gets immediately picked on and driven into the ground, like this thread.
All stuff about me aside, I must say, if someone else had started this thread, no matter what I thought of them, I could not have ever said the things to them that you said to me. Such heartless stabs just aren't in me. I told you about the woman on another board I'm on who is CONSTANTLY whining about how she 'doesn't fit in' and 'nobody likes her' and 'I'm leaving/the lone wolf must walk alone'
and it is ANNOYING as hell but I have never and would never say anything like, 'what's the matter, fishing for a hug? Want us to tell you it's not true? It's all your own fault! or even worse, that you're 'ummmm.' I can tell she obviously has serious emotional issues in her life and feels terribly insecure and unwelcome everywhere she goes. So while I can't bring myself to coddle her knowing that's what she is looking for, I won't hurt her feelings or beat her down over it. I talked in PM with other members, and they all said to just ignore her whiny posts and be nice or at least normal to her in other threads. I also must add that I am a mod on that board, and if anyone acted like some of you do here, you'd be long gone. I see so much disrespect for other members' feelings, it's disturbing. I guess the predominate popular personality around here is hard nosed and mean spirited but disguised as humor, and I can't find that funny.
Just the way the world works, I guess.
Why here?
We do all come to the internet to escape reality, so why make it even worse than real life for some? You don't really know what each person's situation really is or what has made them the way they are. Why can't everyone just can the cutting remarks and be nice, or if you don't like somebody, simply ignore their posts?