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RedrocksU2 said:


I just never heard this happenning before, unless it's was in a movie. :srhug:
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Ah well he did get tipsy that night as well as take a Tylenol PM..

ah well... :(
 
I feel like a middle aged woman trying to put some spice back into her marriage. Sorry if I became sarcastic.

I'm pulling out all the stops here, new lingerie, short skirts, low-cut tops, new perfume, OYSTERS, wine, romantic dinner, bubble bath......
 
absintheminded said:
I feel like a middle aged woman trying to put some spice back into her marriage. Sorry if I became sarcastic.

I'm pulling out all the stops here, new lingerie, short skirts, low-cut tops, new perfume, OYSTERS, wine, romantic dinner, bubble bath......
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I'm not saying anything just throwing it out there but have you tried to sneak him the pill? :shifty:
 
What pill? You mean, VIAGRA?

Where can I get that?

I was seriously going to try and coerce him into taking ecstasy with me!
 
What's wrong with taking ecstasy? He said he wanted to try it, and back in the 70's they used it for couple therapy- to try and make the couple closer together.

Ecstasy is not meant for sexual purposes- if you've ever used it, it opens your mind and your true feelings come out.
THe ONLY reason why I thought of it is because a friend of ours invited us to a "house party"- and it is usually known for ecstasy parties and he asked me if I've ever done it and I said I've tried it twice before. The first time it was just given to me by my sister and she said it was a vitamin. What a BIG surprise!

And as for viagra, I thought you needed a prescription.

As for talking to him about it, I did, splendidly, bring up the situation with us the other night. Somehow I said, "Well you don't fancy me like that." ANd he just shrugged it off and rolled his eyes, as if to say, "That's such bullshit!"



:ohmy: I didn't know you could subscribe to threads.
 
Ah fun with vasopressin and oxytocin; Tell him, or get somebody else to, or write him a letter because however much it changes what you have now it's better than the endless disappointment and inevitable self-loathing of unrequited love (which it turns out is practically impossible to get rid of even when you don't have to see the person).

As far as drugs go; much better for getting to grips with your own thoughts than somebody elses but be responsible in use.
 
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absintheminded said:
I feel like a middle aged woman trying to put some spice back into her marriage. Sorry if I became sarcastic.

I'm pulling out all the stops here, new lingerie, short skirts, low-cut tops, new perfume, OYSTERS, wine, romantic dinner, bubble bath......
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i recommend the book "Maybe he´s just not that into you".

:sarcasm:
 
absintheminded said:
What's wrong with taking ecstasy?
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um, #1, it's illegal?

a couple years ago here in dallas there was a lady who practically ran over a guy. he ended up bleeding to death in her windshield. she was high on ecstasy when driving home when she hit him and chose to leave him dying in her windshield in her garage instead of getting help. and she was a nurse too :tsk:


I'm not saying anything just throwing it out there but have you tried to sneak him the pill?
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i hope you don't try and slip him anything.
it can be dangerous especially if he's taking other medications.


why not try some natural aphrodisiacs first?
 
I'm with ABEL, it's illegal and just a plain bad idea honestly. Why would you want your first time with him to be one where he's all drugged up on narcotics lol?

Is it possible that he's just practicing abstinence now until he feels like he's in a secure commited relationship? You say he has a kid so maybe he's worried about rushing into things or getting you pregnant?
 
absintheminded said:

Ecstasy is not meant for sexual purposes- if you've ever used it, it opens your mind and your true feelings come out.
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I prefer absinthe.

Xing can be dangerous - or without effect.
 
Wow, this conversation has gone off the deep end here. :coocoo:

The 'drug' talk is all a little :rolleyes: over the top. You just need to talk to the guy and figure out where he stands with you. If he's not interested...leave even if it hurts. It ain't worth losing your mind over...in my opinion...:eyebrow:
 
No, I did not slip him anything. I haven't ever done anything crazy like that nor do I intend to. If someone wants to do drugs, it's up to them. I was kidding about "coercing" him, because it was his idea to go to the party and try it.

The other night- while at his house for a small get together I left his place and went out with another guy and later he told me that he's upset that I left with another guy- right in front of him and all of his friends- who all think we're together (news to me kinda- we didn't make an announcement). I told him that I'm not his girlfriend, and the shit really hit the fan. He says, "Oh you spend four out of seven days at my house and sleep in my bed and you're not my girlfriend?"
I said, "No sex. We're like brother and sister."
He said he knew about me, how I was, through his friends, said his friends said "to watch out for me, she's gonna tear through you and tear you up."
He was right. (Or so he says)

Although I did nothing with this other guy- he said that either I could have done something with him sexually or not, just the fact that I would wave it in his face like that was pure disrespect. But I have to admit, I was at the edge of insanity when I left. I felt as if he really didn't like me, or, "He's just not that into me". So I gave up. Moved on. He acted like he didn't even give a flying shit when I left, so I left. I actually felt like he just liked me as a friend.

So in response I said that I was falling in love with him and it was scaring me and the non-sex part was what was really telling me that he didn't like me, alas- where the book that I read a few years ago- "He's just not that into you" came into play.

His response: Sex does not mean love and neither does a relationship without sex mean NO love. He can so easily "have sex" with a girl without having feelings for her and leave her just as well, like so many guys do. BUT since, well, he loves me too, he wanted to prolong it because he knew were both of the same type. He knew what a risk it was. He knew that if we weren't stable as a couple and if sex came into play that would really fast forward a lot of feelings, questions of "oh where is this relationship gonna go now?" type of shit and then everything would be 'skewed'. He also knows that without sex I can't "rule" everything. And without sex I can't "fuck it all up".

I'm not sure I entirely agreed with him but I am mad that he waited for me to entirely give up and walk away to make a peep.

I'm not saying that I'm a bitch and I hope I don't come across one on here, but if I have to be kept waiting for a long period of time (over a year to be totally technical) then I can't stand to wait any longer. He knows how I felt about him from day one. He did not let me know how he felt about me until it was too late.

I am a patient person but when I put myself out like that, vulnerable and waiting for an answer when he knows EXACTLY how I feel about him, there is a limit to how much I can really be made a fool of!

I don't care how scared or careful he is or was. I deserve an apology and I'm not talking to him until I get one. Call me stupid, spoiled, or just plain stubborn, but I'm not taking fault in this. Quid pro quo. Quid pro quo.

*PS- please don't take everything out of what I say literally, I was really joking about slipping him viagra or anything like that. And it's too bad that online conversations don't appropriately portray emotion, smirks, winks, total joking and sarcasm as they should. So if I come off as a bitch on here, I'm not trying to be.
 
The fact that you both didn't talk about this before now hardly leaves you free from fault. Same goes for him. This would not have happened if you had both done the mature and logical thing in the first place. So go ahead and tell yourself you didn't do anything wrong, if blame or lack of is the key here (but I doubt you even think it matters), then tell yourself whatever you need to. This is love, you say. You say you both talk til the cows come home. I am sure both are true; and it's given that that you both kinda deserve a kick up the arse for allowing each other to be so hurt.
 
I hate it when lack of communication does this. It's happened to the best of my friendships and I'm seeing it happen here.

And I DO Hate that fact that I'm being stubborn here. I try to talk myself into it but the same time I get so angry. I can't help it. :(

I think I just need some time to myself. I really put myself out on the ledge, opening up to him about how I really felt about him, and even though I didn't ask him to be upfront about how he felt because I was too shy or too scared, it should have been addressed and I know that. But he should have given some inkling as to where our relationship stood.

His friend just messaged me that he is still sad and misses me but I told him that I think we just need some time because time for me, heals all wounds. Who knows, maybe we can go back to where we were.

For me, jealousy doesn't sit too well, and painting me as a "heartbreaking slut" doesn't either. That's right now, but I can't say how I will feel about it in two weeks time. I am a very forgiving person- due to my tragic past- and he knows that.

If we were meant to be, we'll be. Time only tells, right?
 
^ I so agree.

I'm not the jealous type. And I hate it when my boy-friends were. They think it's flattery but it's really not.

It reminds me of the dog and why it pees on every corner. To mark its spot.
 
i haven't posted here until now. but i think you should go ahead and talk to him. i know you're upset, but "not talking" to him is what got you here in the first place. don't make the same mistake again. if you love him, do what you can to make sure he really knows and understands that. don't ever let one single day go by without telling your loved ones how much you love them.
 
Canadiens1160 said:
Okay guys so I got the face cloths out of the fridge, where's the E?
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I find it highly ironic that if they both had taken E, the current situation probably would have been avoided. :happy:

And I agree with unico :hi5:. Talk to him, pride can be a fool sometimes.
 
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