Solar Supernova
The Fly
Alright. Over the past year or so, I have developed very strong feelings for woman in general on a plutonic (I think thats the right word Im looking for) level. The more I get to know them, the more I usually like them. Ofcourse I have NO trouble finding girls to be attracted, that is, I mean really, not at ALL a factor in this.
Well, my problem is this. I cannot for the life of me, picture anything romantic with them. No, Im not at all gay, thats not even an issue at all, its just like I'd rather see them happy with someone else than with me.
That, obviously, is a very frustrating feeling. I KNOW I have blown possible relationships by me simply saying "no thanks" to the flirting game that would lead to bigger and so called "better" things.
Its like Id rather see myself be alone and happy, not worrying about someone else, if Im doing a good enough job or whatever. And yet, while I feel this, there is a huge feeling over me that tells me you can make a positive difference in someones life. This being said in a romantic way, I remind you.
I believe it stems from my past relationships where I was in a wreck emotionally most of the time, cause I just KNEW something wasn't right, and it was the sickest feeling. Well, as fate would have it, my instinct was correct, and I was crushed like Ive never been destroyed before. Ive had a relationship since, but I just didn't allow myself to delve any further into it.
So to sum it up, this is where I am at: I have been blessed with so many great female friends, and the ones I have, it just makes me thing that I would never want to get in a dating relationship with a girl of this calibre because they are perfect the way they are, and I have nothing to give them that would be of any use or benefit.
Its troubling at times, but really, times like RIGHT now, I believe Id rather see someone I could be interested in, be with someone else. It would save me the most definate and imminant heartbreak and would also give me the joy of seeing that person happy. Just not with me.
Am I completely alone on this? I can't, to be quite honest, imagine anyone else on earth feeling this way. Its like Im rejecting my sexuality to save myself from the pain of heartbreak and the fear of screwing someone that I could really like up!
Anyone have ANY idea of what Im talking about?
Please bear in mind that it is late, and though what Im feeling isnt a result of that, my wording might be. So siphle through the trash and hopefully you get what Im trying desperately to say.
[This message has been edited by Solar Supernova (edited 02-06-2002).]
Well, my problem is this. I cannot for the life of me, picture anything romantic with them. No, Im not at all gay, thats not even an issue at all, its just like I'd rather see them happy with someone else than with me.
That, obviously, is a very frustrating feeling. I KNOW I have blown possible relationships by me simply saying "no thanks" to the flirting game that would lead to bigger and so called "better" things.
Its like Id rather see myself be alone and happy, not worrying about someone else, if Im doing a good enough job or whatever. And yet, while I feel this, there is a huge feeling over me that tells me you can make a positive difference in someones life. This being said in a romantic way, I remind you.
I believe it stems from my past relationships where I was in a wreck emotionally most of the time, cause I just KNEW something wasn't right, and it was the sickest feeling. Well, as fate would have it, my instinct was correct, and I was crushed like Ive never been destroyed before. Ive had a relationship since, but I just didn't allow myself to delve any further into it.
So to sum it up, this is where I am at: I have been blessed with so many great female friends, and the ones I have, it just makes me thing that I would never want to get in a dating relationship with a girl of this calibre because they are perfect the way they are, and I have nothing to give them that would be of any use or benefit.
Its troubling at times, but really, times like RIGHT now, I believe Id rather see someone I could be interested in, be with someone else. It would save me the most definate and imminant heartbreak and would also give me the joy of seeing that person happy. Just not with me.
Am I completely alone on this? I can't, to be quite honest, imagine anyone else on earth feeling this way. Its like Im rejecting my sexuality to save myself from the pain of heartbreak and the fear of screwing someone that I could really like up!
Anyone have ANY idea of what Im talking about?
Please bear in mind that it is late, and though what Im feeling isnt a result of that, my wording might be. So siphle through the trash and hopefully you get what Im trying desperately to say.
[This message has been edited by Solar Supernova (edited 02-06-2002).]