Liesje
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True, that. I work for a college, students are moving in now, and already the "helicoptering" is reaching new extremes, already have had breakdowns of bawling mothers and the freshmen are not even here yet...
True, that. I work for a college, students are moving in now, and already the "helicoptering" is reaching new extremes, already have had breakdowns of bawling mothers and the freshmen are not even here yet...
I would say yes and no. No because my generation seems to believe that life should be fun and we can live until we're 90 or 100, so why rush to grow up? But I would say yes because some 20-somethings are dragging their asses around when it comes to being independent, and not because they are too busy having fun. They really do seem to be babied by their parents and still have adolescent minds.
Thoughts?
i don't use it as an excuse to never try anything, but just that i honestly don't know. and that seems to be true for an increasing number of people out there.
See I disagree, Pearl. I have no problems with people who live to work and have reached a high level of academics and/or very successful careers, but to me to make money doing something I love just takes all the fun out of it for me, it becomes an obligation. I work hard to pay my bills, keep my household fed and comfortable, and have enough on the side for some vacationing and to afford doing the things I really love doing. Is that "settling"? I love training dogs and intend to train German Shepherd dogs to a very high level of work and sport, but even the top winning stud dogs in the world are a dime a dozen. You do not make money this way and if you do, then among those that truly love the breed and the training you are considered an asshole and a sell-out that's taking people for a ride. I know *exactly* what I want in life and am currently doing it without spending a decade in school or working 80+ hours a week. I am stable financially, I live comfortably within my means, I have great credit, I'm 25 and have worked the same job for almost 8 years so I have passed technical certifications, have a long list of great references, and have built a network for new opportunities within my field.
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Same. I can't imagine spending that many hours at work if it wasn't something that I loved and was committed to doing. Granted, I spend more hours there than most people but even if I worked the standard 40 hour week, I'd never last if it didn't bring me personal satisfaction and if I didn't have at least a little ambition to pursue that field.
But I do get what Lies is saying in the sense that I am lucky that I like my job and it also happens to be the sort of job that does come with certain perks that are make the rest of my life better (ie. allows me to travel extensively, live a very comfortable life and so on).
I'm the opposite, Liesje. If I had a job where I did it just to provide for my family and pay the bills, I'd be exhausted. If I am to spend 40+ hours a week doing something, I better love it.
Well, I know a few lawyers, and there is only one that seems to genuinely enjoy his job, the others are just meh.
Imagine if everyone only did work they were passionate about. . .
I know very few people who are meh about it, to be honest. I'd say 90% of them fall in one of two categories - they are either the types who knew they wanted to be lawyers since they were fetuses and live, eat and breathe for their jobs or they pretty much hate what they do but they have gotten used to a certain lifestyle and standard of living that they are not willing to give up so they stay at a job they hate.
The rest are "meh" but like I said, that's definitely a minority in my circle.
Imagine if everyone only did work they were passionate about...
that world does exist
and is well inhabited with people in their mid 20s and 30s, living in their own little world, in their parent's homes
that world does exist
and is well inhabited with people in their mid 20s and 30s, living in their own little world, in their parent's homes
Well, I know a few lawyers, and there is only one that seems to genuinely enjoy his job, the others are just meh. Actually interestingly enough, for the guy that does enjoy his job there is a lot of deal-making, collaborative stuff, etc, along the lines you mentioned.
I'm 22, just graduated from college, and live with my parents again. I would LOVE to have my own place and move out, but how am I going to pay for that? Money is my main problem. I have a part-time job working for a local small business that I like fairly well, and am having trouble finding something to do with my art degree. Ideally, I would like to make most of my living painting or working with art somehow and maybe have a part-time job if necessary. I'm working on making that happen.
I'm not going to settle for a crappy job right now, because I might as well have not gone to college at all if I'm going to do something I hate for the rest of my life. If I turn 25 and I'm still in the same situation, then I guess I'll have to settle for a crappy job like everyone else. I don't want to get married right now, either; I don't really like kids and would rather be independent. Some people laugh at me when I say that I don't want to have kids, as if it's some uncontrollable urge that will come over me whether I want it or not. That kind of makes me angry; I could rant about that, but I'm not going to at the moment. Plus, I'm a little inexperienced in the whole romantic relationship department, but that's because it hasn't been a priority in my life since about middle school.