I mean, it's funny what people pick and choose to accept from the Bible. Many people seem to ignore the very strong sentiment present in the New Testament to spread God's message, but not to judge. Let God sort it out, is basically the way I take it. That doesn't mean to remain silent about the message itself and what it says, but I don't think it's meant to mean, berate everyone who doesn't agree with you, spread hatred and definitely, definitely tell people they're going to hell
I'm jumping in late to this thread, but your comments about the Bible galvanized me into replying.
The most famous statement against homosexuality is in Leviticus (and this statement is geared toward men - there are no statements about homosexual women). But it's been stated by many scholars that the passage was misinterpreted from the original language.
You mention "picking and choosing" and that is a key point. If one were to read ALL of Leviticus, I guarantee you that we are all horrid sinners. There are instructions about when to mate, when not to mate, what to eat, how to prepare it, and on and on. Back then, there weren't 7B+ people. It was viewed as a "waste" not to procreate, especially given the short life expectancy of most people. This is why the Bible has comments on masturbation or having sex for "fun" (including homosexual interactions).
But as you wrote, the world has changed. Sticking to a misinterpretation of a few passages written thousands of years ago seems illogical.
I prefer the New Testament. Jesus never once mentions homosexuality or masturbation as a sin. Jesus had his moments of childhood rambunctiousness (recall him preaching at the age of 12 without telling his parents, then almost telling them off stating where else would he be - in today's world, we might call that being a "brat"), anger (destroying merchants' tables in the temple) and even doubt ("My God, have you forsaken me?"). This is why looking toward an Old Testament filled with mythical about creation and floods (numerous other documents have the same creation story and mention worldwide floods, but they are considered myths), genealogy, and instructions hardly seem relevant to today.
Plus, While there is considerable debate about whether Jesus was married, it is well accepted that Peter, often deemed the "first Pope" was. Yet, why are many ministers in various faiths not allowed to marry? It seems man-kind is all too quick to interpret the Bible to best suit himself/themselves.
This is why your last statement is the most powerful - "not to judge. Let God sort it out". Perhaps if we all lived this way a bit more, life would be better for everyone.