I'm juggling a couple different trips today,
so just don't have time to see if I'm even posting in the right place by reading upthread a bunch...
so please forgive me if I'm not putting this in the right place, but...
I just flashed this morning on how Edge is really onto something with this terrorist analogy! As a technique in fact, not just as a metaphor.
I realized I do it all the time with my kids, and am having better success doing it with hubby too...as long as it's done with love, which I felt edge did.
You name the feeling. You catch the vibe and then you echo it back and it isn't the same trip anymore, it can dissolve away.
When my daughter was having a fit in the back of the car because she really wanted the fucking macaroni and cheese she didn't get a chance to eat before we left, and she was hitting her brother and making him cry, I told her she was so angry she could just hit this boy, who did nothing to her, who's just loving her, because she's so ANGRY. And I played angry and showed her what it looked like (this was all done while vertigo was playing on my little stereo, but I turned it down some more).
Her brother almost asked for an apology, demanded one
self-righteously as he sometimes does. Then I ...much more tentatively, adopted this tone with him that was on the edge of mocking...much harder to pull off than the angry tone...and voiced his trip a little...'all I'm doing is sitting here and giving her a book to make her feel better and she just throws it at me, hurting my head and messing up my seatbelt and it's not fair. why does this happen to me?'...and then he seemed to feel much better...
and then she seemed to feel much better and said well, you know. I was feeling angry and really mad at you 'cause I wasn't getting what I wanted' which is both incredible for a 4 year old and not at all weird because they can still get at how they really feel if we let them.
Usually with hubby when I accuse him of terrorist tactics ...I more often term it 'guerilla' tactics...the stick of dynamite thing is much better, I usually tell him instead that i'm sick of him hiding behind the chair and lobbing bombs at me and then running away the fucking coward...
I don't do it very lovingly and that backfires..oh does it backfire!
So, the terrorist shouldn't be thought of as not human, they are not hideous...the war is hideous, but the warrior is human (did you all hear John Kerry last night...don't mean to get political at all here!...use the 'don't confuse the war with the warrior' line?!
I'd switch it for clearer effect to 'don't confuse the warrior with the war' here, not sure why)
In naming the feeling, Edge --I felt like he was channeling Bono actually--named the terrorist, and it was actually a loving thing to do. Be the bomb, the stick of dynamite, in the face of the stick of dynamite, but with love, and you defeat it.
And so now in my head on this particular trip I can't help but feel those quotes I recall seeing somewhere don't know where or maybe he actually said it in a show? probably not...
Bono talking about/being macphisto and vibing mock the devil and he will flee from thee?
Thanks...I feel much better now...head's still spinning but its a little more centered on my neck for getting that out!
And Thanks to the Edge for that stick of dynamite riff! ( I think I hear it in vertigo as well...)
cheers all!