LarryMullen's_POPAngel said:
One last thing (and I've said it to friends before)... It's not fair to him for me to compare him to other men who have let me down (beginning with my dad), and until I get a definite sign that he's not interested, I should relax.
i think this is very insightful.
i know how exciting crushes can be -- i get them on older men, too -- and it's probably twice as exciting with all of us cheering you on (and it's fun for us too). however, you've got to prepare yourself for the very real possibility that he's not interested. and it seems like you're doing that. he is older, this is a workplace, and perhaps he's just been around enough and seen enough to know that younger woman/older man in a work setting just isn't a good idea.
you've not seen any evidence of this, so i don't think you should worry about it too much. but keep it in mind. and be rational about it.
i think you've got to go ahead and make him make good on his lunch promise. but you've got to be clear and open-minded about it. and if you press a bit at lunch, and he doesn't press back, then i think you need to ease up and move on. if he does respond -- and i think if he's interested, in the context of lunch, he'd be quite clear -- then things will go the way you hope.
and i hope they do. but just keep in mind the things stacked against the possibility of a relationship, and remember that even if it doesn't work out, it's not a commentary on you as a person -- it is a commentary about the possibility of a relationship between two people. it takes two to tango. relationships are as much about timing as anything else. you can't blame yourself too much, or even at all, if it doesn't work out.
for now. hope for the best. have lunch. be your fabulous self. and let the chips fall where they may.
if it doesn't work out, well, now you know. and you've learned. relfect, and then move on.
if it does work out, i want you to PM me with the juicy details, and i'll give you some advice unfit for younger eyes.
(for good measure, lol)
