I've told these stories before, but I think they are worth repeating because there are so many stereotypes.
I go to community college now, but my first semester of post-secondary school was at a university (I transferred to save money). My first night there, I went to a frat party at Tau Kappa Epsilon. I didn't know anybody yet, and I found myself off in the corner, feeling like a dork...at one point, I felt so awkward that I used my cell to call home because I missed my parents so much (as people were dancing around me and spilling beer on me). However, one of the Tekes came up to me and introduced himself...and brought me around to introduce me to his brothers. We did a lot of dancing and a lot of drinking...I started having a blast and really getting to know people. However, my roommate had lost her key in her drunken state and wanted to go back to our room, so he walked us back to our room so we didn't have to cross campus alone. After getting back my dorm, I realized I didn't want to stay in, so we left for the frat house again, but campus police had broken it up. We got a ride with one of his friends to a party off-campus. We spent some time there, but then we had no ride back...so we had to walk across town at 3:30 in the morning to get back to campus. Upon our arrival, I realized my key was gone...I couldn't get into the building even, let alone my dorm room. I found out later that my roommate had stolen it, since she lost hers. I started to cry...my first night away from home, and I didn't have anywhere to stay. So he invited me to sleep in his dorm room.
So..........a frat guy has a drunken, confused, freshman girl back in his dorm....what does he do??
He gets me a pillow, situates me on the couch and sits by me until I calm down. Then he goes into his bedroom and closes the door.
He didn't try a damn thing with me. He took care of me that night...and he was my friend for the rest of the semester. The entire fraternity became my friend. At parties, they watched out for me...if other guys were doing shit they shouldn't be doing, the Tekes were there for me. Sure, I drank with them and danced with them...but they took care of me like a little sister and helped me make lots of friends on campus. I'll never forget those guys.