Communication.
Now, in your defense, I'd say "So, why didn't you spend time with me anyway?" etc, etc, etc. But that's none of my business, I don't need to THERE, so to say.
I can at least get a better picture, though.
I'm all for working out relationships, as oppsed to just.... dropping them. But you gotta be honest about what you want. As in, more time with each othere, etc, or whatever. Or less time, I really don't know.
But neither does he - so you gotta tell him what you want. Us guys are pretty slow when it comes to...... well, many things, I admit. But knowing what women want, ESPECIALLY when it comes to the reasoning behind them, that is sometimes out of our leagues.
And other times, guys feel many things themselves, but don't express it. Or don't know how, or can't. Or are afraid to..... but I suggest you two work on communicating. It's a rough, hard thing to do, but I know it will help.
I'm sure you've been preached this a lot of times, though, so I'll try to stop here. Heh.
But honesty takes courage... I know that much. So, honesty and communication. I guess what I want to finish this with, is.... sort of a remix of what I've tried to say before: That with honesty, and honest communication, you two can determine what course of action to take in regards to your relationship. But if you both are honest about it, then there is no wrong answer, really.
In a way, and this is something I have trouble with myself.... it isn't really about one person or the other. It's about both, and what is right for everyone. There is..... a fine, tricky line. I don't know if I can explain it quite yet.. but I've been thinking about it a lot.......
(you can stop reading here if you'd like... this is more... me thinking out loud)
Edit.......
eh...... I think I was getting too offcourse.... so I .... moved my thoughts elsewhere. Let me see...... what should I conclude with...
I think one of the good points form my...... brainstorm.... was that...... what is shared between the couple is the only thing that is essentially real.
What I am leading to is..... a relationship is only valued at what common level of interest there is between the two parties.
Meaning..... whatever is shared, whatever is common, that is the only thing that is real, the only thing that is.... existing in the reality of the real world. One person can have delusions, illusions, hopes, dreams, etc.. And relationships DO progress, no doubt there. But..... when it comes to what is and what is not, what is shared is really what should be looked at, in my opinion.
I don't know if that will help any or not, but it's just something I thought of, sort of...
Basically, the real meaning, the essense, the value of the relationship... is what you two share. What, and how deep, and etc. I really don't think, that, when assessing a relationship, it is about one person or the other. Assessing has to do with both. Not just...... what one person wants, or one person feels. It doesn't matter, almost. The only thing that is real is.... "what you agree on", I want to say.
But I can't seem to word it right just yet.....
I'll keep trying to figure out just what I mean to say... but...... I'll leave this up here. If it helps you any, great. If...... if it sounds like nothing, like a person talking in circles or something, then don't worry about it.
Regardless, good luck.
And, thanks for letting me try to help you. I really appreciate it.
Heh.