You know... Ive had too many people in my life become complete whores because they thought itd be nice to have recreational sex whenever they wanted. I wont get into it great detail, because I know that no ammount of bitching from anyone here, i.r.l., or otherwise is going to change someones mind. If thats what they wanna do, theyre gonna do it no matter what. But heres my attitude, youve been warned of the consequences, you chose to ignore the wiser crowd, you chose to ignore what was in your best intrest, so Im just gonna kick back and laugh my ass off at your pitiful soul for literally fucking yourself into a personal hell. Youll find no compassion from me for your mistakes. When you regret it, which you will if you dont make the right choice, you have noone to blame but yourself, and if you try to go back and bitch to your friends about how everything wasnt what you expected and how you wish you hadnt done it, I wholeheartedly hope they dont give a rats ass, because you and you alone are responsible for your own actions. Dont listen to what other people tell you is right, your parents teach you your morals, and by the time youre 16 -hence the law- you should be mature enough to be able to weigh the consequences of an action to the point that you can make a concious choice based on your morals. Your parents teach you these morals, and you know what you feel is right versus what you feel is wrong, your parents influence can only go so far though because again, its ultimately your choice, however, if you start listening to your 'all-knowing' friends and letting them pressure you, let them brainwash you into doing things you dont know whether or not you want... well then just how responsible are you? My major beef with kids is they think theyre fucking kings of the world, that they know everything, that no matter what life throws at them they can handle it. At the age of 14? 15? 16? Youve gotta be kidding me. Id like to see a 15 year old try to raise a kid properly, completely independant from the support of their parents. Id like to see that same kid make their life into a success, independant from their parents. Id bet a million to one that it cant be done. A 15 year old kid does not have the worldly knowlege to bring a good outcome to that situation. Hence the law. Mind you, a 16 year old isnt any better, 18 at least, 20 or 22 maybe, but realistically the government cant tell people not to have sex before 22 because thered be hellish ammounts of criminal activity goin on if you know what I mean.
But really... Your friends think they know what theyre talking about, but theyre just conforming to what everything around them is saying. Keep in mind, just because everyone is doing it, doesnt make it right. I understand being curious, cuz I am too, Im only 17, Im a kid still too, I dont know what Im doing with my life, but that being said, Im - as far as Ive been told - 1, mature for my age, and 2, have a very high potential mental capacity. What does that mean? Very little, because the more you think you know, the more you realise you dont know shit. The desicion to have sex is a major one, it involves a lot of personal responsibility, which you may think you have - and yah, you might, but you might not - It involves a lot of emotions - whether you convince yourself theyre there or not is a completely different issue. Choosing to have recreational sex after youve lost your virginity is one thing, because you have a little more experiance, and youre probably a little wiser and less likely to fuck up your life. But, if you make any of these desicions without giving it serious, and I do mean serious thought. You may find yourself in a heap of trouble, no matter how safe you might think you are.
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Ok, so much for not going into great detail... However, I perhaps was unclear at the end and perhaps at the begining. Recreational sex = sex for fun, on a frequent basis. If you do not treat the desicion of whether or not to have sex with respect, youll only hurt yourself, and perhaps someone else who thought that it might mean something. You can tell yourself otherwise, tell yourself that it doesnt matter, remain completely oblivious to the emotional aspect of the act. For a time. How long can you last though? If you have sex and do manage to remain completely seperate from the emotions, how does that fulfil your life? How does it make your life better? How is it fun? How can you justify it over any other form of entertainment? Like really, you want to pass your time getting off, get a vibrator or a porno mag or something, like really, dont bring anyone else into the equation, cuz 2 lives are on the line, not just yours. I reiterate, no matter how safe you might think you are, theres always the chance that a monkey wrench is thrown into the works and oooh somebodys pregnant. Pills - 85%, Condom & spermicide (assuming it doesnt break) - 99%. Youd think thatd be a pretty safe bet, wouldnt you. As someone I know's parents would attest, even that doesnt always work. They had a third kid even though the odds were stacked majorly against any chance of pregnancy, but it still happened. What if you/the person your with happen to be that one in a million? What do you do then?
I dont know how anyone can say they have respect for themselves/their body and make such wreckless uninformed desicions, without loving someone, and without even giving it a second thought. Such respect is superficial at best, just like the majority of todays society. But now, I finally digress.
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