Some people are more emotionally influenced that way. I'm not one of them, so I guess dreams don't affect me like that. However, I've had one dream, once, that has caused me a lot of problems.
Actually..... looking back, it perhaps was accurate. See..... I'll be breif - I shared a dream with another person on the same night, after something really odd happened. But in my dream, I think it was daytime and in the fall, but in hers, it was winter and night time.
Anyway.... I wouldn't invest a whole lot into discerning dreams, unless you want to make them a big part of your life. I'd almost say that you should focus on other things, girlhappy, than dreams. Small things that you can accomplish. But hey, I have 'dreams', as in ideals, that I think about every single day of my life, and I let them guide me. So maybe I just use my dreams in a different way. I don't remember them...... but......
I do have an unusual fascination with 'making dreams come true', but in perhaps an untypical meaning of that phrase.
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My emotional stability doesn't depend on what dreams I have at night, I've realized it depends on the expecations and desires I make. You can learn how to alter your expectations and desires so that there is less fluctuation in emotional swings, but I refuse to believe that one can elimiate emotional swings. Fluctuation is neccesary for balance. Just like the phases of the moon. One thing I try for, though, is to persevere through the bad times, realizing they are just a moment, yet making the most out of the good times, because I know they won't last. Still, I think once I realized that I need to stop focusing on 'how I feel' at this specific moment, things began to improve.
Have you been having certain dreams lately, girlhappy? or is this just in general?
but they are used to it, and only mildly make fun of me 
I dont even think I'm really that 'scared' of spiders either. I have this same type of dream once or twice a month as well. But I actually do believe that we can control our dreams or what we dream about, to an extent. I cant count how many times I've gone to sleep thinking really hard about something so that I'd dream about it, and I do. Not to mention there are many times I am in my dream and I *know* I'm dreaming.. I can make myself wake up if I'm in trouble or its just cool to know 'hey.. I'm dreaming this... its not real'. I've made myself wake up before because I cant breathe in my dream (may have a stuffy nose in reality..) or if I am in trouble, getting chased etc I can concentrate really hard and wake up. 
They're all pretty lame...well, really lame. 
yeah, I dreamt sth like that once: well, I kissed Milo Ventimiglia (you know, the guy who used to work in Gilmore Girls 
It was a good kiss 
