So a good friend of mine from Wisconsin has been talking about coming out to Seattle to visit, and that's a great thing. But everytime she mentions coming out, she mentions a mutual friend of ours coming with her.
Now, me and this mutual friend were pretty tight when I lived there, because the three of us were really tight. My friend is our one connection. Once I moved out here, me and this other woman didn't stay close. I've seen her once or twice since then on visits home, but it's not like I'm dying to see her.
And my friend and our mutual friend are still very tight, even though they live in different cities now. They've gone on trips together, so the thought of them taking a trip to see me together isn't that far out of the norm. But I don't particularly need to see this other person. It's not the end of the world if she comes, it's not like I don't get along with her or dislike her or anything. I just don't consider her that close a friend anymore, and I'd be surprised if she considered me that big a friend to her, either.
I emailed my friend back and said "I'd love to see you, that would be amazing, and if Mary wants to come as well, of course she'd be more than welcome, but I haven't stayed in touch with her nearly as much as I have with you."
I hope I didn't put her out by saying that. I don't think there's a really good way to say that sort of thing.