Um, no, imagining someone naked and having to face them after you've watched them in a pornographic film are two very different things.
They're really not, or at least, not in my experience (and yes I have experience with this).
I think you're missing the point. This isn't about if the children know what porn is, children in middle school regardless of how much they think they know are just now going through that developmental stage. So even the most "experienced" of middle schoolers are confused about sex, and porn is not real sex so to think that middle school age children wouldn't be affected by this is quite delusional in itself.
They really won't be affected by it all that much. For one, had they not been looking at porn on their own in the first place they never would have found her, and for another, just how traumatized do you honestly think they are? Porn is real sex, like it or not. It is two people engaging in intercourse on video camera. Is a lot of porn unrealistic? Sure. However I don't remember ever watching it and going "oh so this is what sex is? now I'm confused!" I distinctly remember my girlfriends and I giggling over porn back in 7th grade, watching some rather graphic stuff (very off-course, definitely not vanilla) and laughing at how weird that was and how if that was sex, we sure never wanted to do that.
Sorry but it's nothing new to kids. And knowing the teacher doesn't really make a difference. Can it cause some petty drama as kids make fun of the teacher? Yeah. But the kids who found this video in the first place were intentionally looking for it so I think their minds were already there and it thus doesn't change a thing in the classroom. You'd be surprised how quickly people can disassociate something.
And btw I wasn't just talking about "engaging in oral sex".
Still doesn't change anything.
Teachers aren't supposed to be role models? In what world?
When you get a little older and have a child yourself, niece, godson, etc. then tell me how EASY that conversation would be.
My father HAD that conversation with me. Was it awkward? Sure, but he was completely well poised about it. I have a 1st cousin whom, yes, I inform about things. I also have had the privilege of teaching a lesson in both a 5th grade sexual education classroom as well as a 9th grade special ed sex ed classroom answering a plethora of awkward questions. Bottom line I've had similar conversations with a lot of kids, and not just the sex talk, but talking about rumors in school, leaked naked photos, porn in general, etc.
If the parents are so uptight they think it's actually difficult, that's their problem. My parents never had an issue with it, nor did my nanny or my foster parents. It's far past the time that American parents actually start trying to take sex head on and talk about it like the natural thing it is rather than stigmatizing it. We shouldn't even be having this conversation in the 21st century. Kids are not so stupid that they can't comprehend their teacher having sex for money, and a parent should be able to explain things without getting emotional about it.
There is nothing wrong with having sex for money. Everything "wrong" with it has been created by society and the fact that we're treating it like it's some sort of horrific thing is ridiculous.
So now she's a role model? I thought teachers weren't role models.
Teachers aren't supposed to be role models, they're supposed to teach. Stating that she is
trying to be a good "role model" now does not mean she actually is a role model or that I think teachers should be/are role models. It merely is a different way of saying that the teacher is making a conscious effort to change her way of life and move on. Teaching a 40-50 minute on one subject with kids does not mean you are their role model or they are trying to emulate you. Six hours with a teacher in elementary school? Yes. But not in middle school. The relationship is far more removed.
Once again you are completely missing the point if you think this is about if the child knows about porn or not.
I think that's what it boils down to though you could technically include other factors. A kid seeing another human being in the act, teacher or not, is not that traumatizing an experience. Even if they are surprised to find out that porn stars are real people, why would that make a difference? Good kids who stumbled across it on accident may feel embarrassed and try to forget about it, bad kids might go and watch it repeatedly but that's a parenting issue, and has nothing to do with the teacher.
Take some responsibility and watch what your kids are doing on the internet, for heaven's sake. Obviously you can't monitor them all the time but I find it hard to believe that there was nothing parents could do to stop eleven and twelve year old kids from watching pornography.
BVS, did you not read her next post? Apparently that's somehow not a contradiction.
Read my above statement.