I know I'm fun and have great sense of humor, cause it takes a lot for me to laugh and I laugh at my stuff all the time
. I'm the same way with control. I have to have it!!!! I am pretty laid back tho too, it's more I just need a plan. I don't like surprises.
I've also exhausted the pool of single women here I think. I'm 33, divorced, don't want kids (and cannot, snip snip) and also an atheist. The biggest issue is the kids. I just don't want them, and even don't really LIKE them. I deal with them enough teaching martial arts!!
I have a lot going on in my head. I've been dating a gal for about a month who seems to be great. But she literally has no free time, but we make it work. The struggle is of course I don't feel like she really likes me, even if the evidence is there. And when we do make plans, they change a lot which for someone who likes control....drives me nuts.
I also may be moving in summer. A close friend wants me to move with her to Miami. She thinks leaving this town/state would be a good thing for me, as I'm clearly in a rut. While I've travelled the world, I've always lived here in Des Moines. My family will not be very accepting of this, which plays no role in my decision, but creates drama and arguments.
I literally cannot live in the moment either. Past experiences have scarred me, and I always wonder about the future. Will this new gal I'm dating work out and then what about the move??? Do I even tell this person about my plans yet? When do I tell my parents, or even my employer??
I've done the meds before, probably 4 years ago. Made me even more depressed and I got off of them. Had more suicidal thoughts and figured I would rather feel scared to do it, then apathy. I go to my counselor every month.
I think the move could be good as it would be something different. More potential for things to do, diff people, and maybe more opportunity in job market (tho I do really well here in dsm, and cost of living is soooo cheap).
Was more just curious if others have these type of issues. Guess good to know I'm not alone. What's sad is that I can come on here and describe these issues, I know I have them, but I literally can do nothing to fix them. Obviously I do have control but something in my head keeps me from ever getting over the hump