DaveC
Blue Crack Addict
I'm so confused.
Today is mine and Rachel's 1 year anniversary. Things have been going slightly downhill since about October though...not enough to kill things but still a slow decline. I'll explain.
When me and her started going out, she was this sweet, innocent girl who always listened to her parents, stayed out of trouble, all that great stuff that really attracted me to her in the first place. She was good friends with a group of about 7 girls who all went to her school. Shortly after me and her started going out, one of those friends admitted she lied about something major in her past (I won't get into it but that's a whole other can of worms), that pissed off everyone else in the group of friends. The lying girl was basically out of the group and sought friendship with a few other people of dubious character. Eventually Rachel and another girl made friends back with the original girl who lied, but the others wouldn't forgive the girl for the lie. So there were fights and stuff and now Rachel doesn't talk to them anymore. This was in about September. That's when things started.
She started hanging out with the lying girl (Chelsea) and her friends. She got more and more involved in their stuff. Now she goes out to parties to drink (without me) every weekend, smokes weed occasionally (all of which I do -less often than she does, mind you-, and I'm not saying it's wrong --that woudl be hypocritical of me-- but this isn't the girl I fell in love with). The worst part is that occasionally she has this male friend (Chris) who sleeps over at her house every so often. In the same room as her. She says that "oh, he's like a brother to me" and that they've been having these sleepovers for years now and not to worry about it. And I know the guy Chris seems like a decent guy and all, but it still bugs me that she has a guy sleeping in the same room as her. I never talked to her about it really for fear of pissing her off or causing a fight or something. But now she has sleepovers with numerous guys (girls are included too)...I don't like it at all. Don't get me wrong, I trust her and all, but it gives me this gut feeling every time that something's wrong. And this all seems to be accumulating. Her friends are having a bad influence on her, I can see it froma mile away, but she can't. She's just having fun she says, "you can trust me" she says. So then why does my instinct tell me that there's something more to this all than she lets on?
I'm losing my attraction to her...I don't have those feelings of euphoria when I'm around her anymore. I don't feel the electric connection when I kiss her anymore. We hold hands and it's almost like I'm looking around to make sure nobody else that I know is watching. I find myself looking more at other girls even when I'm with her and I hate myself for it.
Don't take that the wrong way though. I'm not saying that I don't have feelings for her anymore, it's just that I don't know if you can call it love anymore. This feels more like a dying junior high crush right now.
To make matters worse, this past weekend I went to a leadership conference. It was incredible! I met so many amazing people and brought back past friendships that I lost touch with since last year. And I found myself over the course of the 4 or 5 days that I was focusing more and more on this one particular girl (Jenna). Jenna and me were inseparable. Wherever she was, I was. We would sit there and talk for hours at 3 am over greasy takeout pizza and it would be like we had known each other for years. This girl is incredible. She's insanely beautiful, she's intelligent as all hell, and where Rachel has flaws, Jenna picks them up and fills those gaps. Now that I'm home I see here every time I close my eyes. I went out to a movie tonight with Rachel and all I could think about was Jenna. This isn't supposed to be happening.
This is fucked.
I have a girlfriend who is totally different than she was a year ago (and I am too), and we seem to be growing more and more apart by the day. And now Jenna's in the picture and I just find myself so enamored over this girl (PS: I've been told that she may have similar feelings for me, but she hasn't said so herself and it's from a rather dubious source that is difficult to trust)...I'm so bloody confused, I just don't know what to do. Do I stick with the girl who loves me to death, but I don't love back? Or do I go with the girl who may or may not have the same feelings for me as I do for her, which is head over heels?
FUCK!
Today is mine and Rachel's 1 year anniversary. Things have been going slightly downhill since about October though...not enough to kill things but still a slow decline. I'll explain.
When me and her started going out, she was this sweet, innocent girl who always listened to her parents, stayed out of trouble, all that great stuff that really attracted me to her in the first place. She was good friends with a group of about 7 girls who all went to her school. Shortly after me and her started going out, one of those friends admitted she lied about something major in her past (I won't get into it but that's a whole other can of worms), that pissed off everyone else in the group of friends. The lying girl was basically out of the group and sought friendship with a few other people of dubious character. Eventually Rachel and another girl made friends back with the original girl who lied, but the others wouldn't forgive the girl for the lie. So there were fights and stuff and now Rachel doesn't talk to them anymore. This was in about September. That's when things started.
She started hanging out with the lying girl (Chelsea) and her friends. She got more and more involved in their stuff. Now she goes out to parties to drink (without me) every weekend, smokes weed occasionally (all of which I do -less often than she does, mind you-, and I'm not saying it's wrong --that woudl be hypocritical of me-- but this isn't the girl I fell in love with). The worst part is that occasionally she has this male friend (Chris) who sleeps over at her house every so often. In the same room as her. She says that "oh, he's like a brother to me" and that they've been having these sleepovers for years now and not to worry about it. And I know the guy Chris seems like a decent guy and all, but it still bugs me that she has a guy sleeping in the same room as her. I never talked to her about it really for fear of pissing her off or causing a fight or something. But now she has sleepovers with numerous guys (girls are included too)...I don't like it at all. Don't get me wrong, I trust her and all, but it gives me this gut feeling every time that something's wrong. And this all seems to be accumulating. Her friends are having a bad influence on her, I can see it froma mile away, but she can't. She's just having fun she says, "you can trust me" she says. So then why does my instinct tell me that there's something more to this all than she lets on?
I'm losing my attraction to her...I don't have those feelings of euphoria when I'm around her anymore. I don't feel the electric connection when I kiss her anymore. We hold hands and it's almost like I'm looking around to make sure nobody else that I know is watching. I find myself looking more at other girls even when I'm with her and I hate myself for it.
Don't take that the wrong way though. I'm not saying that I don't have feelings for her anymore, it's just that I don't know if you can call it love anymore. This feels more like a dying junior high crush right now.
To make matters worse, this past weekend I went to a leadership conference. It was incredible! I met so many amazing people and brought back past friendships that I lost touch with since last year. And I found myself over the course of the 4 or 5 days that I was focusing more and more on this one particular girl (Jenna). Jenna and me were inseparable. Wherever she was, I was. We would sit there and talk for hours at 3 am over greasy takeout pizza and it would be like we had known each other for years. This girl is incredible. She's insanely beautiful, she's intelligent as all hell, and where Rachel has flaws, Jenna picks them up and fills those gaps. Now that I'm home I see here every time I close my eyes. I went out to a movie tonight with Rachel and all I could think about was Jenna. This isn't supposed to be happening.
This is fucked.
I have a girlfriend who is totally different than she was a year ago (and I am too), and we seem to be growing more and more apart by the day. And now Jenna's in the picture and I just find myself so enamored over this girl (PS: I've been told that she may have similar feelings for me, but she hasn't said so herself and it's from a rather dubious source that is difficult to trust)...I'm so bloody confused, I just don't know what to do. Do I stick with the girl who loves me to death, but I don't love back? Or do I go with the girl who may or may not have the same feelings for me as I do for her, which is head over heels?
FUCK!
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