Ok....... Seriously! This is not intended to offend those of the 'couples persuasion' but rather, to seek some information. To get into your relationship minds and have you explain to me what happens in yer heads when you meet that perfect someone? BECAUSE.... I am so sick of losing friends to marriages!!!!!
*Tears hair out, scratches eyes and screams!!!
Ok, ok...... To lay some ground work, years ago, I was really really good friends with this couple. There was four of us actually that hung out all the time, but only two were a couple.... To make a long story short, we had great times together, but once they got married, I never heard from them ever again. It's true!! Weirdos.
Anyway... now, my best friend really (if I must name her to be so), is getting married next Septmeber as in 2003!!. We are talking over a year away, and she has already planned the whole bloody thing. She is consumed with wedding plans, marriage crap and buying a new house. She never has time for anyone but her fiance and her parents, and it's not because she really does anything. She just has disappeared into 'Couples Oblivion'. never makes the effort, like the only thing that matters is her and her fiance. The thing is, we all hung out and had great times BEFORE they got engaged, but it seems since they got engaged, it's like our friendship is slowly fading away. I refuse to lose another friendship to marriage! I am not even a very demanding friend, but come on! We live in the same city and I haven't hung out with her in two months. Not to be mean, but other than her fiance and parents and her fiance's sister, she hasnt really any other friends. Not that she hangs out with, yet she can't even make the time for me.
I guess...... I just needed to vent, and perhaps get some insight into what happens to ones mind when they get engaged. I can honestly say that I would change.. why should I? I mean, just because you meet a guy and get engaged doesn't give you the right to blow off your friends. Just my opinion.... time to hear yours. Oh, and if you have any advice on how to handle this.... I am listening. thx.
*Tears hair out, scratches eyes and screams!!!
Ok, ok...... To lay some ground work, years ago, I was really really good friends with this couple. There was four of us actually that hung out all the time, but only two were a couple.... To make a long story short, we had great times together, but once they got married, I never heard from them ever again. It's true!! Weirdos.
Anyway... now, my best friend really (if I must name her to be so), is getting married next Septmeber as in 2003!!. We are talking over a year away, and she has already planned the whole bloody thing. She is consumed with wedding plans, marriage crap and buying a new house. She never has time for anyone but her fiance and her parents, and it's not because she really does anything. She just has disappeared into 'Couples Oblivion'. never makes the effort, like the only thing that matters is her and her fiance. The thing is, we all hung out and had great times BEFORE they got engaged, but it seems since they got engaged, it's like our friendship is slowly fading away. I refuse to lose another friendship to marriage! I am not even a very demanding friend, but come on! We live in the same city and I haven't hung out with her in two months. Not to be mean, but other than her fiance and parents and her fiance's sister, she hasnt really any other friends. Not that she hangs out with, yet she can't even make the time for me.
I guess...... I just needed to vent, and perhaps get some insight into what happens to ones mind when they get engaged. I can honestly say that I would change.. why should I? I mean, just because you meet a guy and get engaged doesn't give you the right to blow off your friends. Just my opinion.... time to hear yours. Oh, and if you have any advice on how to handle this.... I am listening. thx.
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