Spiral_Staircase
War Child
Originally posted by ghetofabu:
...if you are not living for yourself than you a just wasting air and space.
I believe the exact opposite to be true.
Originally posted by ghetofabu:
...if you are not living for yourself than you a just wasting air and space.
Originally posted by doctorwho:
When I read through these articles, I don't see anyone say, "make your marriage work." But I do hear people, like myself, recommend seeing a counselor - and that is a GOOD thing.
Maybe for you it wasn't. But if you were so easily able to accept your husband leaving for another woman, that also suggests that you were also ready to end the relationship.
However, in most cases, I do feel that least an *attempt* at saving the relationship should be made. For example, is MacFly lusting after Sam because this is his "soul mate" - or has he finally come to the realization that he can no longer sleep with other women? Sam represents the "forbidden fruit." Additionally, I think they both need to work out a few issues. Why is MacFly's wife so dependent on him? Why is he so willing to run to another woman? He needs to work out his issues of guilt and confusion. Only a counselor can do this.
Therefore, to just say, "eh, get a divorce then bang away" is just as ignorant as saying "make your marriage work." At least an attempt should be made to save it. THEN, if things still aren't working, I fully agree that the marriage should end. Some peoople aren't meant to be married, and some marriages aren't meant to be. But all marriages will face road bumps, including attractions to other people. To end a marriage just because he has an attraction to a coworker is rather extreme.
Originally posted by paxetaurora:
Who here who is married or in a relationship has *never* had second thoughts?
::cricket noises::
Amen, Arun. He asked for people's advice. Something as serious as this cannot be candy- coated.Originally posted by Arun V:
well...it is harsh..it's a harsh situation. and even though he hasn't done anything...we do have to make it clear that the serious consideration of it..is not a good thing.
Originally posted by Sicy:
Erm, arent you divorced diamond?
What happened to your 'contract' ?
Originally posted by diamond:
When you do find the right person, I sincerely hope the best for you.
He will probalbly be a lucky cat.
DB9
Originally posted by Arun V:
manda is marrying me..there are no questions on this matter
sorry to break the seriousness of the thread.
Brother Halfstar-
Plez talk to your soon to be spouse and procure me an invite.
I will be on hand,at the reception, to console the disgruntled and despondent harem girls.
Always here to help.
Your brother-
diamond
[This message has been edited by diamond (edited 05-09-2002).]
Originally posted by paxetaurora:
Again, I'm sure most of you have good intentions. But still: I don't think any of us here can judge someone on the basis of things they've thought about. I've wanted to kill people sometimes, or at least seriously wound them. But I've never acted those impulses. Am I still a killer?
Originally posted by U2Bama:
If I did not fear being called names and such, I would say more; but being as it is, I inform you that I agree with a lot of the things doctorwho and Crzy4Bono said; and Diamond speaks with the qualified experience of a valuable point of view.
But please let me say this:
Extra-marital affairs are SOOOO 90s!
Originally posted by Spiral_Staircase:
I believe the exact opposite to be true.
Originally posted by ghetofabu:
But if you are doing something or you are with some one for reasons other than your own desires than you are not living for yourself.
Originally posted by ghetofabu:
I think we have all covered this topic from every angle. We have all given him some things to mull over.
Someone please take this dead horse out of the room. It has taken enough of a beating.
Thanks.Originally posted by joyfulgirl:
But not before I tell you I agree with the essence of your previous posts.