Sad_Girl said:
Dazz! what happened?
I am only gonning to keep this up for a bit.....
well........it all may sound a bit much.....
here's the set up...you can read that while i type out the rest.... in the edit mode.....
thanks
ok I was cleaning up in my room....there's a insection due us most likeky mon....SO i was doing what i needed to be done ESP AFTER ...all the MSG FUN Ihadn't really done much....and had started to do so this past week
Nasty roomie{ heretoward = NR} calls down the hallway....did i use the quaRT POT...
DZZ: No,, you used it last for eggs { week ago she hasn't ckleaned it...nor the OTHR 2 1/2 quart pots which she used to boil eggs 2 + wks go}
NR: it's greasy...it can't be mine...
DZZ: {i think for min , maybe it IS mine...but no then i remember I used the skillet to heat up left-overs and already cleaned it earlier} I explain all that to her.
NR- starts complaining about there only a little bit of dish liquid left...so she doesn't
have enough soap to do her dishes with.......
It WOULD be an ok amount for a normal amomt of dishes, sitting in the sink for 1,2 ,3 days >we've almost all had that happen a few times in our lives, yes?<.
But the few dushes AND LOTS of SIlverware....all used by her has been
sitting in the right half of the sink for about 12 weeks! it's like talking to a brick wall to get her to do certain things at times.......
they are greasy & slimey from sitting there so long ....I'm not her maid...i won't do them and i won't touch 'em now
SO that's the set up......
she starts complaining again about the dishliquid....i say again I'm not going out because i'm cleaning....If she had done the dishes 3 days ago.......let alone the darn 12 weeks back......she could just get by with the ?? 1/8 inch in there.. I will put out only like 2 - 4 drops on a sponge ...wehn i get that low to wash the few things i use {mostof the time...i don't use that many cooking/prep wares & untenstiles.....
OK ...I can be a little...germ phobic. As like in: if I had to move her scuzzy dishes for SOME reason probably wantto put on a pair of vinyl or latex gloves to remove them. If i drop certain stuff on the street i wrap it in something till i can clean it {however i can...sometimes if can't just let it sit in sunlight next day for a ferw mins for the UVs to do there good "magic".
So i come out and it looks like she is washing the pot with her fingers.There is a sponge in the sink that's probably hers...but it's sitting in the far corner of where her scuzzy stuff is. Meaning she sure as hell didn't pick THAT up to use.
I walk over...WHAT are you doing washing the pot with your fingers - I can't see a sponge in her hand} stop it!
NR- I'm NOT using my fingers I'm using your sponge...
{my sponge is a little 2 X2 in sponge with scrubby back side, that I've held on to for the past few weeks...
{esp AFTER i blew soooo much money during my u2 week...which i will mostly be using my credit caRD TO REPLACE THE $80 i SPENT ON EXTRA food/rain ponches
..film, the $20 net pass I'm almost up with etc}
it was on my list of things to buy once i got my bi-monthly check.
Now I thot she was once she did that pot going to try to do some of those other dishes....And she DIDn'task ask me in the first place.....
I aksed her to stop and give the sponge to me...sghe refused...I asked several times and she still refused.....
SO...I went to try and get it from her...she moved her hand further away...then really stretched her whole arm out....so I had to go ariound her..,gtrab her arm, then re-grab it...because i went to high up so that her arm was still flailing some. Gripped her near her wrist and got it away......
stooopid on my part at some level.......
so she went and complained {pls don';t ak any who DOES'nt kno the extre particulars.....} and after a few hrs had a meeting and was told if something like that happens agian... we both could be removed....
she was thinking prerssing charges....we aqpologized to each other.....
Now IF she should change her mind....I could press charges and its on record that she hit me in the upper jaw ??3 yrs ago..... has threratened to "kill me" "trow me out the window".
I haver NEVER used such threatening language on her!! NEVER not beofre trhings started to go not so good with here...NOR after things had started to get more & more nasty...over the past ? 3 yrs.....
She also Kicked my bedroom room door about 2 dozen times in the past 3 yrs...i'm holding closed so she dosen't come in & do possibly further damage...
and i sg YOU KNOW SHE BARRICadedME IN THE APT FOR 15 MINS this past tues>.......
i anm goingto write to the mgmnt to say removing me is a
drastic Asymetrical action considering she's got a record waaaaaaaaaaay longer than mine as far as physical & verbal/ mental emotional abuse.... towards me...
ther than the previopus roomie 2 {no 3 since i moved there} who WAS WAY too incompetant and engaged in incompemtant behavioooooooooors that both her and both of us and the apt in danger..... SO yes I've yelled {occasional curse} at that obne.....
but the other 2 and current one.......i've he\ardly ever needed to/had to raise my voic\v\ce legt alone ..descend into the kind of behavior i did do today...... if we are able to stay away and not get all entangled abussively then things 'll be ok....
I just need your prayers
1 ]so I DONT lose my temper and do any thing physic al to her,, under an circumstances except ful out self-protection..... bno veral loudness where in SHE can get to ASxcreeching pot that threatened our living there....
2] if she does decide to pres charges...give me the strength and help i need to make sure I'm protected from her [going into dangerous behavoir mode}, and can press myolder documented incdients and get HWER out and HAVE NME STAY.....
WHY DON'T I move...with my partucular very personal extenuating circumstances...not easy to quickly find the kind of apt that will suite/my needs/future art-making & selling goaLS ETC....
thanks for listening....